Battle Cry of the Tiger Mother

[Drolefille]

Not planning on reading it, I think it's been so thoroughly discussed in the forums I read and on NPR that I'm out of thoughts on it.

[SWTXBelle]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

Not planning on reading it, I think it's been so thoroughly discussed in the forums I read and on NPR that I'm out of thoughts on it.

I've proably heard the same programs you have, Drole. I don't want to really form an opinion without reading it, but my gut is NOOOOOOOO!

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

I've proably heard the same programs you have, Drole. I don't want to really form an opinion without reading it, but my gut is NOOOOOOOO!

My thoughts are complex. Overall it's probably no big deal, not in the long run, but it also sounds like some of her actions rise to the level of abuse. Honestly I'd be surprised if every parent didn't cock up royally at times, but still she's proud of it. And then there's the issue of stereotyping her experiences as 'Chinese' compared to 'Western' where in reality she's 'strict' and dislikes 'permissive' parenting. All 'western' parents aren't permissive just as all Chinese parents aren't strict.


And that's without reading it. Which I don't intend to

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

My thoughts are complex. Overall it's probably no big deal, not in the long run, but it also sounds like some of her actions rise to the level of abuse. Honestly I'd be surprised if every parent didn't cock up royally at times, but still she's proud of it. And then there's the issue of stereotyping her experiences as 'Chinese' compared to 'Western' where in reality she's 'strict' and dislikes 'permissive' parenting. All 'western' parents aren't permissive just as all Chinese parents aren't strict.


And that's without reading it. Which I don't intend to

Exactly. If my upbringing was permissive, I'd hate to see what's strict. Also, you have to take past vs. present into account and ethnic differences into account, which still play a role in America.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest

Exactly. If my upbringing was permissive, I'd hate to see what's strict. Also, you have to take past vs. present into account and ethnic differences into account, which still play a role in America.

Precisely, though even then I wouldn't characterize X parenting as ETHNIC!Style. As a white person, not really my place, but the complaints about characterizing this model as CHINESE!Parenting come from within the Asian-American and Chinese-American community as well.

So ultimately I'm just kind of "eh" about the topic since I'm not a parent and don't intend to be.