Discipline: Spanking

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Super sad = parents spanking their developmentally delayed children.

I recently started a new position where I work with such kids. You'd be surprised at some of the parental rationales for doing so. Even when they have been told that the behaviors their kid exhibits are the result of a developmental delay or other disorder.

Ex: Bobby has severe ADHD. You spanking him every time he gets a Red Card isn't going to make him stop talking during Circle Time/putting paste in other kid's hair/etc. No, I don't care that your friend/mom/etc. says "he's just not getting enough spankings at home." You can spank him until the cows come home, that's not going to change behavior.

I know I'm not a parent, but jeez.

That is sad.

I think spanking is fine on occasion and if it's done with no real harm. I was spanked as a child when I did something particularly horrible, but I would never have been spanked hard enough to bruise or cause any lasting harm. (And if I have kids I will likely do the same...no, it caused no lasting harm or psychological scarring.) Hurting a child makes me sick to think about and it's even worse when it's children that have those developmental issues. It boggles my mind that parents wouldn't educate themselves on the disorder their child is diagnosed with...because if they did they'd know spanking isn't the solution.

I also hate to see children being spanked for things that children routinely do. I was spanked when my actions would have caused harm to myself or my siblings, not when I talked back or cried or had an accident (three examples I've seen very young children spanked for).

[epchick]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

not when I talked back

THIS didn't warrant a spanking in your household? So you were allowed to talk back?

If I talked back or gave a smart-ass remark, that was an IMMEDIATE slap across the mouth.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by epchick

THIS didn't warrant a spanking in your household? So you were allowed to talk back?

If I talked back or gave a smart-ass remark, that was an IMMEDIATE slap across the mouth.

Of course I was punished, but my parents did not spank me just for talking back. There are a million ways to discipline a child besides spanking, and I agree with them that something like talking back does not warrant a spanking.

And they never, ever slapped me across the mouth.

[epchick]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

Of course I was punished, but my parents did not spank me just for talking back. There are a million ways to discipline a child besides spanking, and I agree with them that something like talking back does not warrant a spanking.

And they never, ever slapped me across the mouth.

ehh to each their own. If my kids talk back, they'll get a slap on the mouth too.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by epchick

ehh to each their own. If my kids talk back, they'll get a slap on the mouth too.

I cannot and will not slap a child. There are many other ways to discipline. I agree with my parents' method of refraining from using any physical discipline other than spanking, and reserving that for serious misbehavior...not something as commonplace and trivial as being a little mouthy.