First glance appearance/personality traits, and you're hooked, so far

[PhoenixAzul]

Is it weird that I can't quite name what it is for me? I've been attracted to very different types/appearances over the years, but I still can't really put a finger on one specific trait or characteristic that made me take a second look. I know it is a bit of a cop-out to say it is the whole package, but it is the whole package. I also very much feel like "vibes" or "chemistry" or whatever else you want to call it play a huge role...I've met a lot of men who are objectively "attractive" (good looking), but I wouldn't give them the time of day for some reason.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by PhoenixAzul

Is it weird that I can't quite name what it is for me? I've been attracted to very different types/appearances over the years, but I still can't really put a finger on one specific trait or characteristic that made me take a second look. I know it is a bit of a cop-out to say it is the whole package, but it is the whole package. I also very much feel like "vibes" or "chemistry" or whatever else you want to call it play a huge role...I've met a lot of men who are objectively "attractive" (good looking), but I wouldn't give them the time of day for some reason.

I'm exactly the same. The guys I've dated are all over the place physically, have had different interests, and have been different ages. They've all been very different personality wise. They've also (not all, but many) have been guys that aren't traditionally attractive, and many guys that I know are attractive, technically, just don't do it for me. It must be a "vibes" thing.

[honeychile]

^It's the phermones. I really believe in them. I've dated two men who looked so alike that people confused their pictures, and other than that, I've been all over the map. There are two things I don't care for, though: too much hair (*shudder*) or over 6'3". If said guy looks like he's wearing a sweater at the beach, I am completely sickened. And guys who are too tall, well, other than being fair and leaving them to the truly tall women, I just get a crick in my neck!