recruitment advice for juniors

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by krose

I thought my chances of getting a bid weren't good, and even if I did get a bid it was to a chapter I didn't feel I would want to pledge.

If you don't mind my asking: How do you know that when you said yourself that you just came school in the fall?

I can maybe see a junior saying that who maybe has been on campus a few years, but I'm curious as to how someone could make this determination having just arrived at school a few months ago.

[krose]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

If you don't mind my asking: How do you know that when you said yourself that you just came school in the fall?

I'm not saying I know for certain but the whole time I was talking with the girls it just didn't feel like I belonged. It's nothing against them personally at all. I'm not sure if I can explain it without sounding naive. Basically I was unsure about them, didn't ever have good feelings when I left their parties. If I had gotten a bid from them and turned it down I couldn't pledge again for a year. So the way I see it is now I can still go to their COB events and see how I feel about them, but if I had gotten a bid from them from formal I can't say that I would have been okay with accepting it, and I wouldn't have been able to cob after recruitment or rush in the spring.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by krose

I'm not saying I know for certain but the whole time I was talking with the girls it just didn't feel like I belonged. It's nothing against them personally at all. I'm not sure if I can explain it without sounding naive. Basically I was unsure about them, didn't ever have good feelings when I left their parties. If I had gotten a bid from them and turned it down I couldn't pledge again for a year. So the way I see it is now I can still go to their COB events and see how I feel about them, but if I had gotten a bid from them from formal I can't say that I would have been okay with accepting it, and I wouldn't have been able to cob after recruitment or rush in the spring.

Did you go to COB events for that group? They're clearly the group that is most interested in you.

[krose]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

Did you go to COB events for that group? They're clearly the group that is most interested in you.

I have been in contact with the president and we are trying to set something up. I am not writing them off completely, I just don't think I would have been able to commit to them without checking all of my options first, if that makes sense?

[Blue Skies]

Originally Posted by krose

I'm not saying I know for certain but the whole time I was talking with the girls it just didn't feel like I belonged. It's nothing against them personally at all. I'm not sure if I can explain it without sounding naive. Basically I was unsure about them, didn't ever have good feelings when I left their parties. If I had gotten a bid from them and turned it down I couldn't pledge again for a year. So the way I see it is now I can still go to their COB events and see how I feel about them, but if I had gotten a bid from them from formal I can't say that I would have been okay with accepting it, and I wouldn't have been able to cob after recruitment or rush in the spring.

If you are unsure about them, then you should definitely give them a shot. You'll know when a group is absolutely, positively NOT for you. But the group that you are unsure about might be your home!

I would encourage you to give it one more try at spring informal or COB. You are obviously interested in greek life, why not?