recruitment advice for juniors

[33girl]

Originally Posted by krose

At the COBs I felt welcome and involved at the parties. I am typically a shy person but I found it really easy to open up and had great convos with the girls I talked to. I made sure to tell the sororities I was interested in that I liked their sorority and for what reasons. I didn't flat out say, Hey XYZ I want to be a sister. I feel like that would have been rude or would have made it seem like I thought I was in already, but I did make a point to show interest without seeming cocky or over confident. I honestly feel like maybe I just don't stand out enough.

I'm guessing you mean the COB parties held before formal recruitment this semester. nittanygirl or psusue - were those open to anyone who wanted to come or did you have to be invited?

If they were open to anyone and you did not attend all of them - i.e. picked and chose - this probably did hurt your chances in formal recruitment.

[nittanygirl]

Originally Posted by 33girl

nittanygirl or psusue - were those open to anyone who wanted to come or did you have to be invited?

From what I've seen, it tends to vary.
I know of one chapter that seems to always have an open party in the fall, then they do "invites back" but I know of other chapters that are strictly invite only. And then some that are even more laid back without actually having events per se.

[krose]

Originally Posted by 33girl

If they were open to anyone and you did not attend all of them - i.e. picked and chose - this probably did hurt your chances in formal recruitment.

I did not by any means try to pick a choose but sometimes it was unavoidable, like when two sororities would schedule a party on the same night at the same time. (during COB pre-formal)

[33girl]

Originally Posted by krose

I did not by any means try to pick a choose but sometimes it was unavoidable, like when two sororities would schedule a party on the same night at the same time. (during COB pre-formal)

I find it hard to believe that the ONLY time a sorority scheduled a party and didn't hold another one was opposite another group. That's just dumb on their part. It's COB, they can have as many parties as they want - or, as nittanygirl said, events that aren't even parties. If that is the case though, you should have let the other sorority know you weren't blowing them off completely - they may have made an effort for you.

[nittanygirl]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I find it hard to believe that the ONLY time a sorority scheduled a party and didn't hold another one was opposite another group. That's just dumb on their part. It's COB, they can have as many parties as they want - or, as nittanygirl said, events that aren't even parties. If that is the case though, you should have let the other sorority know you weren't blowing them off completely - they may have made an effort for you.

krose is not completely off-base on this.
I had considered COB last fall and there were groups that had events at the same times. This was an issue last spring as well which is why they held a structured informal instead.
Acknowledging that, I still think if she would have let the sorority know she was interested but couldn't make the time, that they might have worked something out to meet with her.

[psusue]

Originally Posted by nittanygirl

krose is not completely off-base on this.
I had considered COB last fall and there were groups that had events at the same times. This was an issue last spring as well which is why they held a structured informal instead.
Acknowledging that, I still think if she would have let the sorority know she was interested but couldn't make the time, that they might have worked something out to meet with her.

Co-sign on this. When I was beginning my journey into Greekdom, I looked into several COB parties before formal recruitment and some did indeed conflict. However I don't think there was ever two sororities who scheduled their parties at the same time that did not also offer at least one other party you could attend, if that makes sense.

Also you could have contacted the recruitment chairs about the conflict. If they wanted to, they could have worked something out with you to still meet you. Best of luck to you.