Honeymoon Registry

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by 33girl

On one hand, I think it's great that people are finally accepting that even though something's a "traditional" gift they might not get a lot of use out of it and asking people to buy it is silly. My parents (married in the 1960s) have a full set of china for 12, and honestly, I think we used it once after I came along.* I'd rather buy someone a big Steelers polar fleece blankie for the couch that they're going to use every day.

LOL.

In my house growing up, we used silver flatware for every meal. I'm not making that up; it's all we had. Friends would come over and get silver to eat their ice cream. They'd say "oh, you don't need to use the silver for me." I'd and say "it's all we have." My parents finally got stainless after I was in college.

As for china, we used it a lot. Not everyday, but a lot.

I'l admit, Ms. MysticCat and I tend to use our handthrown pottery plates a lot more than our china. (And if we know the bride and groom will like it and use it, we tend to give nice pottery as a wedding present.)

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

LOL.

In my house growing up, we used silver flatware for every meal. I'm not making that up; it's all we had. Friends would come over and get silver to eat their ice cream. They'd say "oh, you don't need to use the silver for me." I'd and say "it's all we have." My parents finally got stainless after I was in college.

As for china, we used it a lot. Not everyday, but a lot.

I'l admit, Ms. MysticCat and I tend to use our handthrown pottery plates a lot more than our china. (And if we know the bride and groom will like it and use it, we tend to give nice pottery as a wedding present.)

I believe you just admitted to being born with a silver spoon in your mouth? LOL

Clearly, different things are acceptable in different social circles and we have discussed this topic in previous threads. In my family and area, registries are common and expected and we want to know where people registered. I would be shocked to get a bridal or baby shower invitation without registry information included. I would be annoyed at having to take extra steps to find out where the couple is registered. However, notice that I said "shower invitation"? The point of a bridal or baby shower is to get gifts, not get clean. By definition, you "shower" the bride or mom-to-be with gifts. That's the whole point. In these parts, gifts are given at the shower, cash/check/gift cards are given at the wedding, for the most part. There will be a few gifts at a wedding, but it is primarily envelopes. It is the custom and it is what is done. If you give cash/check, then the couple can decide whether they want to spend it on extras during their honeymoon, a down payment for a house, to add to their china or crystal collection or to save it to pay their divorce attorney.

If I lived in a different area, had different friends/family, then I'd find out the customs there and follow them.

I think honeymoon registries sound silly though.