Assistant attorney general blogs against gay student body president

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by agzg

Well, "rational" depends on your starting point.
Besides, this is obviously not the view of all homophobes. I highly doubt that Fred Phelps fits in this model.

I'm talking about the more subtle - the "I don't want to give her a bid because I'm afraid she'll hit on me" rather than the "I don't want to be in the same restaurant because I'm afraid she'll hit on me." In a chapter, the assumption (although we know this is not true) is that you're all friends, you all have a relationship with one another.

If a person doesn't think a straight man and woman can have a relationship with one another that is strictly platonic, they might also think that they can't be friends with a member of the same sex who is gay and have that be strictly platonic, either.

It's not "I don't want to work with you in a group project for 20 minutes during class because you're gay and you'll hit on me."

People who follow the When Harry Met Sally mentality may still socialize and persue friendships with the opposite sex, it's just that they don't expect even the possibility that it will remain neutral. If that's your starting point, I think it's completely rational that someone would think the same of a lesbian potential new member.

@ the bold, that's why I prefaced it with "I think"

I have heard of and seen several GLBT GLO members come out to their brothers/sisters after graduating. Those members didn't hit on members while they were active -- otherwise, they would have been outed sooner.

I'm not going to assume to know how everyone else handles MS, but I'd think that if a GLBT aspirant is being discussed, SOMEONE should be around to say "Well, Jimmy from Fall 2005 was gay and didn't hit on anyone. Why do you all think Johnny would?" or something along those lines.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

@ the bold, that's why I prefaced it with "I think"

I have heard of and seen several GLBT GLO members come out to their brothers/sisters after graduating. Those members didn't hit on members while they were active -- otherwise, they would have been outed sooner.

I'm not going to assume to know how everyone else handles MS, but I'd think that if a GLBT aspirant is being discussed, SOMEONE should be around to say "Well, Jimmy from Fall 2005 was gay and didn't hit on anyone. Why do you all think Johnny would?" or something along those lines.

This^.

I do personally know two sorority members who came out after becoming alums because they were afraid of judgment were they to come out during their time as an active. One had a quiet relationship with a woman at a different college that few people know about and one simply didn't talk about her sexuality. They didn't "hit on" anyone. (In other words, same example as yours, just reinforcing it with another true-life anecdote).