The Differences in Sorority & Fraternity Rush: Why?

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I very much agree that the parenting issues are not the system's fault, but the fault of individual parents. I remember being a PNM and discussing parental involvement with the women in the group. Some were like me...my mother and other relatives coached me on what to say/not to say, helped me pick my wardrobe, etc. but did not hover (as in, it was made clear to me that it was my decision to join or not join...and I was educated enough on the process to understand that it is mutual selection and I may or may not receive a bid). Some had absolutely no prior knowledge of Greek life. And some had mothers who were calling them in between every party and pressuring them into joining a certain chapter. Keep in mind this is anecdotal, but those of us in group 1 or 2 seemed to fair better than those in group 3. They were in general far more nervous, and far more emotional when dropped. However they were also in the minority. Most of us had reasonable parental involvement or none at all. And from the many Greek men I know, there seemed to be very similar levels of involvement for them. Many with a reasonable amount or none at all and some with way too much.