The Differences in Sorority & Fraternity Rush: Why?

[AlphaFrog]

You brought up the analogy of parenting... Moms and Dads in general have very different parenting style. With multiple children, women try to strive for fairness between sibilings...men tend toward Occam's Razor (the simplest solution). So, if you have 10 cookies to divide among 4 siblings, a mom would most likely give each child two cookies, and then make sure the last two cookies were cut in perfect halves. Unless on child doesn't want 2.5 cookies and returns one whole one to the communal jar. Then the mother will attempt to redistribute it to the other children, either as one whole cookie if only one child wants another cookie, or divided evenly between the number of children who want more cookies. A dad will say "Hey y'all...I got some cookies...who wants some?" and leave it to the kids to duke it out over them. Same thing with rush. Only we don't cut our PNMs in pieces when we have an odd amount.

[DubaiSis]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Only we don't cut our PNMs in pieces when we have an odd amount.

Um, no sharing sorority secrets! HA!

[33girl]

Also, I can say FROM EXPERIENCE that the male style of rush is bad for women. On my campus, the (thankfully now ex) Greek advisor thought it was a fine idea for first semester freshmen women to go through a minimally structured rush. They went to a meet the Greeks in the gym from table to table for like 10 minutes, and I don't think they even HAD to visit each table - just where they wanted to go. There was no cutting, invites etc, just a week where sororities could hold parties (which frequently overlapped) and bids going out on a certain day. Now keep in mind this is at a school with a lot of first generation college students - it's not one of those places where women have been hearing about sorority involvement and seeing their moms go to alum meetings since birth. Most of the women had NO clue what rush was about. Well - the school now has two fewer chapters, and anti-Greek sentiment definitely is high.

Many women didn't get into the chapter they looked at, much in the same manner as LaneSig outlined. They don't take this as "the sisters of XYZ led me on and they suck," they take it as "all Greeks suck." These disappointed women don't look at other chapters, they say forget the whole system.