Quitting school after an unsuccessful SEC recruitment

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Originally Posted by BadCat25

It is so easy for us who did not have a failed rush to criticize the actions of those who did so I guess it is up to me to defend girls who transfer after having one. We do go to college for the education but a failed rush is public in your face social rejection and can be a devastating experience for an 18 year old girl. A transfer from one big state university to another does not sacrifice your education because they are all about the same so that argument doesn’t hold. What do you accomplish by a transfer? You might have a successful rush at your new school but rushing as a sophomore is always tough no matter what college you go to. At a minimum you will never again have to deal on a day to day basis with the people who rejected you. Never again have to sit next to them in class. Never again walk by them on campus. Never again walk by their chapter houses. Never again read about them in the school newspaper. You can in some sense give the finger to those who gave you the finger. For some girls it can be the right decision.

Since the advent of RFM, I have seen many girls do this and it worked for them. Most of them left really big schools like UGa and had majors that easily transferred. None of them had particular ties to the big school and as they saw it, there was hardly any difference between, say, an EED major at UGa and one of the smaller state universities. Either way they would end up a teacher. In the last 10 years, I've hardly known any women who then went back to the big school and tried to affiliate; they were happy where they transferred to. Most of them had great rushes at the smaller schools despite what happened at the first school.

Furthermore, no one's hometown friends made fun of them for transferring and believe me, once "real" life starts, no one is going to say, "There's Sarah. Would you believe she transferred so she could be Greek?" Usually people forget that they were even at the first school....you know, life is so demanding that the last thing anyone cares about is if and why someone left their school.

A few of these girls have already become valued regional officers for their sororities!