African American women in CPC, opinions, please?

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest

This is sooo true and I wish people would get it. I have navigated both worlds (predominantly black vs. predominantly white) all my life and noticed that when a Black person is called out for "acting white" by other Blacks, it's not always because the person is being accused of speaking well and having high academic standards. A lot of times they are speaking of the person's disconnection to their culture and other Blacks. I have watched some of these persons purposely not speak or interact with other Black people and try to act like and do what their white peers were doing, including allowing their own hair to break off and fall out because they were washing it every day and using products (with drying agents) not meant for their hair texture. This kind of thing is what is meant often times when a Black person is accused of "acting white."

Eek. People actually DO this?

[Jill1228]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Eek. People actually DO this?

I was wondering the same thing

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by Jill1228

I was wondering the same thing

I wouldn't have written it if I hadn't seen it and DrPhil wouldn't have co-signed if she hadn't. Not everyone embraces their "Blackness" and you can insert any ethnicity in the blank. Unfortunately, not everyone loves who and what they are and some are in serious denial about their unique needs in caring for themselves mentally, emotionally, and physically when compared to others. Sad, but true.

[DrPhil]

Yesssssss. I think I referenced the hair texture thing a couple of posts ago.

In the few instances where nonwhites are the power and population majority, something similar happens:

I may've shared this story before but I remember the hottest white guy at my middle school who was widely accepted as "the cool white guy" and "the fine white guy." That certainly went to his head (also literally, you'll see) and he started doing everything he could do to dress like, talk like, and even walk like "one of the Black boys." The funniest thing was that this was in the '80s and Black guys were shaving their names and stuff in their heads. Well, guess what, his hair texture wasn't conducive to that...not even if he tried to do a buzz cut or fade...but he damn sure tried. LOL. It was the funniest thing. He was so laughed at that he wore a hat for 2 weeks. God bless his soul as he was reminded that he is not "just like us."

Of course, not all white ethnicities have the same hair texture and not all Blacks and African Diasporics have the same hair texture. But, you damn sure need to understand whether or not you share the same texture of those you are trying to mimick.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

I may've shared this story before but I remember the hottest white guy at my middle school who was widely accepted as "the cool white guy" and "the fine white guy." That certainly went to his head (also literally, you'll see) and he started doing everything he could do to dress like, talk like, and even walk like "one of the Black boys." The funniest thing was that this was in the '80s and Black guys were shaving their names and stuff in their heads. Well, guess what, his hair texture wasn't conducive to that...not even if he tried to do a buzz cut or fade...but he damn sure tried. LOL. It was the funniest thing. He was so laughed at that he wore a hat for 2 weeks. God bless his soul as he was reminded that he is not "just like us."

I just had an image of Zack from Saved By The Bell trying to do this and it brings the LOLZ.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest

I wouldn't have written it if I hadn't seen it and DrPhil wouldn't have co-signed if she hadn't. Not everyone embraces their "Blackness" and you can insert any ethnicity in the blank. Unfortunately, not everyone loves who and what they are and some are in serious denial about their unique needs in caring for themselves mentally, emotionally, and physically when compared to others. Sad, but true.

That IS sad. I mean, I have always had more non-Black friends than Black ones, but I have never for a second thought to wash my hair everyday. That, and I'd rather not be bald. lol.