African American women in CPC, opinions, please?

[sigmadiva]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

^ sigmadiva, do you think it occurs to them that they might be shunned? Or even whether they had ever been shunned previously.

And I would like to know why voluntarily join an org where you know that you might be shunned?

Being in an academic (school) or living situation (home / community) that you can not control and being shunned is one thing. To knowingly join an org that you really don't have to join and being shunned seems, well, ridiculous (for lack of a better word).

Remember that rush is the first time a lot of these women have been "judged."

Based on what? (<--- Slightly rhetorical question )

On another note, this also makes me consider people who ask why I would consider pledging an NPHC fraternity knowing I could be shunned as a gay man. If I put myself in their shoes, I think I can empathize with them even more.

I think the difference though is that you are open about your sexuality and you will not change that for anyone. If I remember reading in Muchkin03's post a page or two ago, she said something to the effect that she had to change her behavior to fit in with her (White) sisters. Or, there is an expectation that a minority will change his/her behavior to fit in with their White counterparts.

Sen I, I'm sure that when you are around your Alpha brothers you don't start acting "straight" to fit in with them. You are who you are whenever and where ever.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by sigmadiva

If I remember reading in Muchkin03's post a page or two ago, she said something to the effect that she had to change her behavior to fit in with her (White) sisters. Or, there is an expectation that a minority will change his/her behavior to fit in with their White counterparts.

Wait, when did I say that?

[sigmadiva]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

Wait, when did I say that?

Page 6, your post #81 - at least that is how I interpreted what you said. Maybe you meant something different?

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by sigmadiva

Page 6, your post #81 - at least that is how I interpreted what you said. Maybe you meant something different?

Yeah, I meant something completely different with that one there.

For the record, I acted the same way with my sorority sisters as I did with any of my friends at that time (of all races). I say "at that time" because that was over a decade ago and I probably don't act the same way now.