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Originally Posted by anotherchance
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Theres a website called collegecandy.com that I waste time on all the time. Well there's a new column about sorority life and recruitment da de da da da, I know there's posting after posting about that on here. ANYWAYS, rambling on...I saw this comment from someone and it has kinda stuck with me since I saw it.
Sometimes I feel like my college experience has been a huge disappointment. I didn’t realize how big of a deal sororities were, I came from a small town so no one that I knew of had ever been in one. When I got to school I saw all these pretty girls all together with their letters. I was so intimidated. I wanted to be in one so bad, but really my parents couldn’t afford it and neither could I. I considered rushing the next year (after getting a job!), but I kinda got on bad terms with a girl (well she ended up being on bad terms with everyone and was later kicked out of her sorority for too many standards violations), but I figured if I tried rushing I would just be laughed in my face. I transferred schools and I figured that I was too old for a sorority but one of my classmates invited me to a open bidding event and I was offered a bid. I hung out with the girls a few times but I never felt a connection and I ended up dropping. I know that was my chance right there but why stick with something when I wouldn’t be happy with it? But now looking back I see that I wish I would’ve known about the whole Greek life scene from the beginning. I’m graduating soon and I don’t feel like I had that great of a college experience. Am I putting too much on not being in a sorority? I think they are great and everything, but is it really as glamorous as it seems? I see all these girls that always have something fun to do and friends to be with. I still don’t know that many people at my school so there are alot of times I am lonely and think about my regrets with rushing. Are there other people that feel this way too or should I just get over it?
Now, I understand SOMEWHAT where they are coming from. I got a late start to my sorority and I remember hoping I could find that kind of friendship, but I got a snap bid and wahhlaah I'm a Kappa  BUT, I just want to know peoples opinions of this. Sometimes things just stick with you and you want to talk about them. This is my thing. I see that she had a bid to somewhere but later dropped because of "no connection", but is that typical of people who join later in their college years? I know I was a bit older than most of my pledge class but we got along great. Anyways, opinions are appreciated.
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I'm not sure I understand what there is to have an opinion on.
Greek membership is not the only way to have four years of fun or a sense of belonging. I think that members are more noticeable because they wear letters which identify them. Sorority membership not as "glamorous" as some people think it is. Behind all the fun you see is a lot of hard work you don't see.
As to your question, most people get along quite well with others a couple of years younger than them, but some don't.
I don't see the big deal in her situation. I think that regrets are useless, because you can't change the past. Time to move on.