Opinions?!

[anotherchance]

If this is the wrong place to post, let me know I will move it.

Theres a website called collegecandy.com that I waste time on all the time. Well there's a new column about sorority life and recruitment da de da da da, I know there's posting after posting about that on here. ANYWAYS, rambling on...I saw this comment from someone and it has kinda stuck with me since I saw it.


Sometimes I feel like my college experience has been a huge disappointment. I didn’t realize how big of a deal sororities were, I came from a small town so no one that I knew of had ever been in one. When I got to school I saw all these pretty girls all together with their letters. I was so intimidated. I wanted to be in one so bad, but really my parents couldn’t afford it and neither could I. I considered rushing the next year (after getting a job!), but I kinda got on bad terms with a girl (well she ended up being on bad terms with everyone and was later kicked out of her sorority for too many standards violations), but I figured if I tried rushing I would just be laughed in my face. I transferred schools and I figured that I was too old for a sorority but one of my classmates invited me to a open bidding event and I was offered a bid. I hung out with the girls a few times but I never felt a connection and I ended up dropping. I know that was my chance right there but why stick with something when I wouldn’t be happy with it? But now looking back I see that I wish I would’ve known about the whole Greek life scene from the beginning. I’m graduating soon and I don’t feel like I had that great of a college experience. Am I putting too much on not being in a sorority? I think they are great and everything, but is it really as glamorous as it seems? I see all these girls that always have something fun to do and friends to be with. I still don’t know that many people at my school so there are alot of times I am lonely and think about my regrets with rushing. Are there other people that feel this way too or should I just get over it?


Now, I understand SOMEWHAT where they are coming from. I got a late start to my sorority and I remember hoping I could find that kind of friendship, but I got a snap bid and wahhlaah I'm a Kappa BUT, I just want to know peoples opinions of this. Sometimes things just stick with you and you want to talk about them. This is my thing. I see that she had a bid to somewhere but later dropped because of "no connection", but is that typical of people who join later in their college years? I know I was a bit older than most of my pledge class but we got along great. Anyways, opinions are appreciated.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by anotherchance

If this is the wrong place to post, let me know I will move it.

Theres a website called collegecandy.com that I waste time on all the time. Well there's a new column about sorority life and recruitment da de da da da, I know there's posting after posting about that on here. ANYWAYS, rambling on...I saw this comment from someone and it has kinda stuck with me since I saw it.


Sometimes I feel like my college experience has been a huge disappointment. I didn’t realize how big of a deal sororities were, I came from a small town so no one that I knew of had ever been in one. When I got to school I saw all these pretty girls all together with their letters. I was so intimidated. I wanted to be in one so bad, but really my parents couldn’t afford it and neither could I. I considered rushing the next year (after getting a job!), but I kinda got on bad terms with a girl (well she ended up being on bad terms with everyone and was later kicked out of her sorority for too many standards violations), but I figured if I tried rushing I would just be laughed in my face. I transferred schools and I figured that I was too old for a sorority but one of my classmates invited me to a open bidding event and I was offered a bid. I hung out with the girls a few times but I never felt a connection and I ended up dropping. I know that was my chance right there but why stick with something when I wouldn’t be happy with it? But now looking back I see that I wish I would’ve known about the whole Greek life scene from the beginning. I’m graduating soon and I don’t feel like I had that great of a college experience. Am I putting too much on not being in a sorority? I think they are great and everything, but is it really as glamorous as it seems? I see all these girls that always have something fun to do and friends to be with. I still don’t know that many people at my school so there are alot of times I am lonely and think about my regrets with rushing. Are there other people that feel this way too or should I just get over it?


Now, I understand SOMEWHAT where they are coming from. I got a late start to my sorority and I remember hoping I could find that kind of friendship, but I got a snap bid and wahhlaah I'm a Kappa BUT, I just want to know peoples opinions of this. Sometimes things just stick with you and you want to talk about them. This is my thing. I see that she had a bid to somewhere but later dropped because of "no connection", but is that typical of people who join later in their college years? I know I was a bit older than most of my pledge class but we got along great. Anyways, opinions are appreciated.

No, it's not typical, I don't think. I joined about halfway through college (got my bid as a 2nd semester soph) and I still related pretty well to girls who were younger than me (my Big Sis was a freshman).

That post is kind of why we encourage people to stick it out and see, just because you could potentially regret the decision to leave.

Oh well. Too bad. So sad. Cry me a river.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Oh well. Too bad. So sad. Cry me a river.

And then build a bridge, get over it and move on.

[SisterFour]

I would say that she isn't alone in feeling this way, but things like this happen in so many areas of life. Not just college. Not just Greek Life. People need to constantly be looking for the next thing. The next connection.

[Shellfish]

Voilà. (Sorry, but it really bothers me when I see "wa-la" or "wahlah" or some such thing in Internet posts.)

[honeychile]

I'm far from the Spelling Police Squad, but I'm fairly certain that the phrase you wanted was "Voila! I'm a Kappa!", not "wahhlaah I'm a Kappa".

Not everyone has every opportunity, and that's what makes life interesting. If we only met clones of ourselves every day, we'd be bored out of our minds.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by honeychile

Not everyone has every opportunity, and that's what makes life interesting. If we only met clones of ourselves every day, we'd be bored out of our minds.

Right.

I've said this before, but I really have a hard time buying "I don't fit in" or "I don't feel a connection."

If you went to a school where there were maybe 2 chapters of maybe 30 women, I MIGHT believe you if you said you didn't fit in.

But at many schools, chapters are large enough that you are bound to find a group of women to connect with.

Ex: if chapters at your school are above say 70+ girls, there's really no way you can claim that they're all ___ and I don't fit in.

It's impossible for that many women to all be the same and have the same interests.

The flipside of this is that you are never going to find a group where EVERYONE is just like you and shares your every interest.

[IrishLake]

Originally Posted by Shellfish

Voilà. (Sorry, but it really bothers me when I see "wa-la" or "wahlah" or some such thing in Internet posts.)

Originally Posted by honeychile

I'm far from the Spelling Police Squad, but I'm fairly certain that the phrase you wanted was "Voila! I'm a Kappa!", not "wahhlaah I'm a Kappa".

Not everyone has every opportunity, and that's what makes life interesting. If we only met clones of ourselves every day, we'd be bored out of our minds.

(Giggle) - I was just about to type this. I've seen "wah-lah!" too many times and it drives me crazy!

[anotherchance]

I'm sorry! I'm sorry!

If I ever need a document spellchecked I'm posting it on here and letting gc'ers make the corrections.

[AnchorAlumna]

Originally Posted by anotherchance

I'm sorry! I'm sorry!

If I ever need a document spellchecked I'm posting it on here and letting gc'ers make the corrections.

Excellent idea - there are plenty of people here ready to tell you what to do!

[agzg]

Originally Posted by anotherchance

I'm sorry! I'm sorry!

If I ever need a document spellchecked I'm posting it on here and letting gc'ers make the corrections.

Or you could just click the spell-check button yourself.

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by anotherchance

If this is the wrong place to post, let me know I will move it.

Theres a website called collegecandy.com that I waste time on all the time. Well there's a new column about sorority life and recruitment da de da da da, I know there's posting after posting about that on here. ANYWAYS, rambling on...I saw this comment from someone and it has kinda stuck with me since I saw it.


Sometimes I feel like my college experience has been a huge disappointment. I didn’t realize how big of a deal sororities were, I came from a small town so no one that I knew of had ever been in one. When I got to school I saw all these pretty girls all together with their letters. I was so intimidated. I wanted to be in one so bad, but really my parents couldn’t afford it and neither could I. I considered rushing the next year (after getting a job!), but I kinda got on bad terms with a girl (well she ended up being on bad terms with everyone and was later kicked out of her sorority for too many standards violations), but I figured if I tried rushing I would just be laughed in my face. I transferred schools and I figured that I was too old for a sorority but one of my classmates invited me to a open bidding event and I was offered a bid. I hung out with the girls a few times but I never felt a connection and I ended up dropping. I know that was my chance right there but why stick with something when I wouldn’t be happy with it? But now looking back I see that I wish I would’ve known about the whole Greek life scene from the beginning. I’m graduating soon and I don’t feel like I had that great of a college experience. Am I putting too much on not being in a sorority? I think they are great and everything, but is it really as glamorous as it seems? I see all these girls that always have something fun to do and friends to be with. I still don’t know that many people at my school so there are alot of times I am lonely and think about my regrets with rushing. Are there other people that feel this way too or should I just get over it?


Now, I understand SOMEWHAT where they are coming from. I got a late start to my sorority and I remember hoping I could find that kind of friendship, but I got a snap bid and wahhlaah I'm a Kappa BUT, I just want to know peoples opinions of this. Sometimes things just stick with you and you want to talk about them. This is my thing. I see that she had a bid to somewhere but later dropped because of "no connection", but is that typical of people who join later in their college years? I know I was a bit older than most of my pledge class but we got along great. Anyways, opinions are appreciated.

I'm not sure I understand what there is to have an opinion on.

Greek membership is not the only way to have four years of fun or a sense of belonging. I think that members are more noticeable because they wear letters which identify them. Sorority membership not as "glamorous" as some people think it is. Behind all the fun you see is a lot of hard work you don't see.

As to your question, most people get along quite well with others a couple of years younger than them, but some don't.

I don't see the big deal in her situation. I think that regrets are useless, because you can't change the past. Time to move on.

[anotherchance]

Originally Posted by agzg

Or you could just click the spell-check button yourself.

I could do that too, but I'm just making fun of myself for being a bad speller.

[anotherchance]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

I'm not sure I understand what there is to have an opinion on.

Greek membership is not the only way to have four years of fun or a sense of belonging. I think that members are more noticeable because they wear letters which identify them. Sorority membership not as "glamorous" as some people think it is. Behind all the fun you see is a lot of hard work you don't see.

As to your question, most people get along quite well with others a couple of years younger than them, but some don't.

I don't see the big deal in her situation. I think that regrets are useless, because you can't change the past. Time to move on.

It was just something that caught my attention and kept it. Just wanted to know if anyone else sees these kinds of things from girls who aren't in any organizations.

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by anotherchance

I could do that too, but I'm just making fun of myself for being a bad speller.

But... you were cutting and pasting from another site, right? So it wasn't you who wrote "wahlah" or whatever it was, and your spelling's been pretty right on so far (although I DO have my red pen at the ready just in case )

Originally Posted by anotherchance

It was just something that caught my attention and kept it. Just wanted to know if anyone else sees these kinds of things from girls who aren't in any organizations.

We see all sorts of things, actually. Posts from members in organizations, used to be, want to be, want to leave, blah blah blah, etc. Stick around, it's very educational.