Informing Alums their legacy was released

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by AoPiMommy

Good morning

Is it now standard practice to notify the Alum that their legacy going through Recruitment has been released? And if so, who at the chapter level is normally responsible for this? A collegiate? An alumna?

When I got that call I was caught off guard. And it was very difficult knowing before my child knew.

That would be a policy that would probably differ based on each sorority and sometimes each chapter.

[gee_ess]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

That would be a policy that would probably differ based on each sorority and sometimes each chapter.

agreed. I can only speak for my sorority, and it is our national policy that we do not contact alums to notify them when a legacy is released

I sure would not want to be the advisor making those calls for a chapter!

[AOII Angel]

AoPiMommy, we try to notify to AOII in question as a courtesy anytime a legacy is released. Ideally this would be before the PNM is notified so that the AOII sister isn't the "last to know" and can be prepared to offer support to her PNM when she calls upset. Usually an alum calls with the news, but that is not always possible.

I'm sorry that your daughters were released, but Im glad you got the courtesy call. As hard as it is to know before they did, many sisters complain when they didn't receive the call that they were blindsided.

[preciousjeni]

Originally Posted by gee_ess

I sure would not want to be the advisor making those calls for a chapter!

I may have mentioned this before. I went through NPC recruitment as an undergrad, because I was curious. When I was released by the chapter of which I was a legacy, my mother was contacted. That part was ok. It was the fact that the alumna (who coincidentally was in my mother's pledge class) said something to the effect of "You know she isn't XYZ material." That set my mother off.

I think these calls/letters can go south VERY easily and have to be handled with the utmost sensitivity.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by preciousjeni

I may have mentioned this before. I went through NPC recruitment as an undergrad, because I was curious. When I was released by the chapter of which I was a legacy, my mother was contacted. That part was ok. It was the fact that the alumna (who coincidentally was in my mother's pledge class) said something to the effect of "You know she isn't XYZ material." That set my mother off.

I think these calls/letters can go south VERY easily and have to be handled with the utmost sensitivity.

Whooooaaaaa. Who gets off on saying something like that to a PNM's MOTHER?

[AoPiMommy]

I suppose if it was handled sensitively it might be ok. I dunno, I could live without this practice.

[gee_ess]

Originally Posted by AoPiMommy

Well, my experience went south. In no uncertain terms I was told something very similar. At the time I wanted to trash all my AOPII swag, but after I calmed down I realized I could apply the "one bad apple" theory and move on. I suppose if it was handled sensitively it might be ok. I dunno, I could live without this practice.

I think it would be a terrible call to make or receive, no matter who did it or how it was done. I can totally relate to your first gut reaction - would have probably been mine too!
Maybe this is why more groups are doing away with the practice? I have had lots of phone calls after the pnm was cut and reported back to legacy relation, and I have talked those alums through it. It is kind of nice to be able to say, "Who knows what those actives were thinking? This is rush and it is a crazy animal. Anything can happen." Not a great answer but better than saying something negative.