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Originally Posted by ASUADPi
OMG so true. My first rejection, that I remember, was in 5th grade when I didn't make choir. It got worse in high school. I didn't make the top choir, I didn't make cheer one year. It was a part of life. Yeah it hurt, but isn't the saying something like "whatever hurts you makes you stronger" (something like that).
Now everything is about placating them. When I coached freshmen cheer in 08. I could take 12-15 girls (I say that number because it was "up in the air" of whether I would get a new uniform or not, if not only 12 girls, if so 15). Well I was essentially "forced" by the head coach to take 12 girls and 2 alternates and 1 manager. Only like 2 girls were cut. I was like really this is stupid. I only had like 17 girls trying out in the first place.
I just don't see the point why everyone has to "make the team" or "make the play" etc...because it is not going to prepare them for the future, as evidenced on this boards via our recruitment threads and the PNM's who "I'm so pretty, and smart and have tons of extra curriculars and OMG they dropped me".
I wanna say to them, you are now a little fish in a huge pond.
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There's a balance. As one of the kids that tried her hardest (at least when I was a little kid and hadn't given up yet) and almost never got picked for anything or won anything, it would've been good for me to on occasion feel included. I'm not talking about school sports teams or other teams/clubs that are and should be genuinely competitive. But in Little-League type organizations I think the practice of giving them all a little trophy is a good thing. Kids should learn early on that you can't always win, and it's not the end of the world when you don't, but a little ego boost on occasion is a good thing.
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