Auburn University Recruitment - Fall 2010

aumom2010 · #1 08-13-2010, 11:46 AM

I tried to post this earlier, but I don't think it worked, so it may be a repeat.

Rush for Cassie is over. The two groups she liked released her. The other group which she definitely feels is wrong for her invited her, but she will not attend unless required to do so.

She is still interested in COB, but we both know that that may not work out for her.

I am probably more upset than she is at this point. I really don't care if she doesn't pledge, but my heart aches for her disappointment. She feels insulted, rejected, and embarrassed right now.

I know lots of wonderful girls are released during the process, but the fact remains that about 800 or more girls somehow measured up, and she was found lacking.

She will get past this and I know things will probably work out in the end.

Best of luck to Suzie, Emma, and Stephanie. Thanks to all of you who have been supportive.

AuburnDad · #2 08-13-2010, 12:13 PM

Emma just texted. It's good news and bad news again.

The good news is that she will go to preference with three invitations.

The bad news is that she was released by two of her favorites. Her one remaining favorite, is the Reds. She is feeling confused because she said that it went "really, really well" with the Cubs and her hostess had told her that she "really hoped to see her tomorrow (pref)". I told her that the hostess was only one girl in the chapter, and that the 3 you have left are all you can worry about. I quoted one of the posts in this thread - "Try to wipe the slate clean and mentally start fresh with just these 3".

I believe that she will maximize her options, but is a little confused and hurting today, and hoping for the best.

Apparently, they are taking their cell phones away so we won't hear from these PNM's again until this evening.

sweetmagnolia · #3 08-13-2010, 12:15 PM

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Originally Posted by AuburnDad

Apparently, they are taking their cell phones away so we won't hear from these PNM's again until this evening.

They're allowed to do that?!

ThetaPrincess24 · #4 08-13-2010, 01:17 PM

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Originally Posted by sweetmagnolia

They're allowed to do that?!

Probably. Either they are having problems with PNM's using them/having them ring during parties, or they are trying to eliminate the possibility altogether of a PNM's cell phoen going off during a preference party.

If a PNM"s family has an emergency, they can call Panhellenic and Panhellenic will find that PNM/go get them. Recruitment & preference parties went off fine back in the days without cell phones. I'm sure PNM's not carrying them in to the parties will not hurt.

carnation · #5 08-13-2010, 01:19 PM

I think the biggie is that they don't want the girls calling friends or relatives to get advice on how to rank their final groups.

Xylochick216 · #6 08-13-2010, 12:13 PM

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Originally Posted by aumom2010

I tried to post this earlier, but I don't think it worked, so it may be a repeat.

Rush for Cassie is over. The two groups she liked released her. The other group which she definitely feels is wrong for her invited her, but she will not attend unless required to do so.

She is still interested in COB, but we both know that that may not work out for her.

I am probably more upset than she is at this point. I really don't care if she doesn't pledge, but my heart aches for her disappointment. She feels insulted, rejected, and embarrassed right now.

I know lots of wonderful girls are released during the process, but the fact remains that about 800 or more girls somehow measured up, and she was found lacking.

She will get past this and I know things will probably work out in the end.

Best of luck to Suzie, Emma, and Stephanie. Thanks to all of you who have been supportive.

If she hasn't already formally withdrawn, I would recommend she at least attend pref. She's not bound to anything and can withdraw after. Pref can sometimes change your mind about a group.

TriDeltaSallie · #7 08-13-2010, 12:14 PM

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Originally Posted by aumom2010

Rush for Cassie is over. The two groups she liked released her. The other group which she definitely feels is wrong for her invited her, but she will not attend unless required to do so.

She is still interested in COB, but we both know that that may not work out for her.

I am probably more upset than she is at this point. I really don't care if she doesn't pledge, but my heart aches for her disappointment. She feels insulted, rejected, and embarrassed right now.

I know lots of wonderful girls are released during the process, but the fact remains that about 800 or more girls somehow measured up, and she was found lacking.

I'm going to go way out on a limb here and hope I don't regret it. And I will also say that I don't know Auburn or the reputations of any of the groups. But I do know what it is like to be in a "lesser" group.

Being insulted, rejected and embarrassed works both ways. The group that apparently wants Cassie and invited Cassie back and she is rejecting feels the same way. (I'm assuming that Cassie has been invited back to one of the "lesser" groups.)

While the PNMs often feel hurt when they are dropped, it works the same way in the chapters. Chapters have rush crushes that drop them and it is very disappointing. It is also hurtful to be in a "lesser" group that has much to offer (both now and after college) and discover that women would rather not be Greek at all than associate with you.

So while I do sympathize with you and Cassie, the rejection and hurt goes both ways. If Cassie (or any other PNM) doesn't accept an invitation to preference, the chapter is insulted, rejected and embarrassed as well.

It is said so many times on GC. She should really at least go to preference. She has nothing to lose and maybe much to gain. But at least she will have finished the process and can make a decision.

gatordeltapgh · #8 08-13-2010, 01:13 PM

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Originally Posted by TriDeltaSallie

I'm going to go way out on a limb here and hope I don't regret it. And I will also say that I don't know Auburn or the reputations of any of the groups. But I do know what it is like to be in a "lesser" group.

Being insulted, rejected and embarrassed works both ways. The group that apparently wants Cassie and invited Cassie back and she is rejecting feels the same way. (I'm assuming that Cassie has been invited back to one of the "lesser" groups.)

While the PNMs often feel hurt when they are dropped, it works the same way in the chapters. Chapters have rush crushes that drop them and it is very disappointing. It is also hurtful to be in a "lesser" group that has much to offer (both now and after college) and discover that women would rather not be Greek at all than associate with you.

So while I do sympathize with you and Cassie, the rejection and hurt goes both ways. If Cassie (or any other PNM) doesn't accept an invitation to preference, the chapter is insulted, rejected and embarrassed as well.

It is said so many times on GC. She should really at least go to preference. She has nothing to lose and maybe much to gain. But at least she will have finished the process and can make a decision.

I really LOVE your post and thank you for your honesty! I completely understand becasue I have worked with a chapter in a similar situation and it IS really awful and hurful to be on that side of things. This was a lesson I did not learn until I started advising. Like many have said, you only spend a few short years in college and your "sorority life" really takes off after college. The goods news for the chapter I worked with is that our part of the country is a little more forgiving than the south, so with a little work and love the have flourished and accomplished amazing things in a short period of time.

Sallie - I am so glad you didn't pass up an opportunity to be part of an amazing group. I am assuming you are a Tri-Delta from your user-name. Tri-Delta is an amazing group and some of my very favorite NPC mentors are your sisters. Great lesson here. Thank you for posting.

P.S. I love your HQ building!

TriDeltaSallie · #9 08-13-2010, 02:14 PM

Thanks for your kind words, gatordeltapgh. It is a different experience and until you live through it you really can't understand it. As an adviser you know what I am talking about.

I'm going to out myself and share that this retro recruitment story was mine. I only used a different name when I wrote it because my sorority name is already in my user name. But I think my story and the eventual results of my choice might be helpful for someone reading this thread. No, I didn't go to Auburn or an SEC school, but sorority life is what you make of it. I received a great blessing in my life by joining Tri Delta, even if it wasn't one of the most desirable groups on campus.

Girls can drop out and decide they are "too good" for the chapter or chapters they have remaining. But today I sit here a member of a GLO with a lifetime of opportunities. I never have to wonder what if.

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Originally Posted by gatordeltapgh

I really LOVE your post and thank you for your honesty! I completely understand becasue I have worked with a chapter in a similar situation and it IS really awful and hurful to be on that side of things. This was a lesson I did not learn until I started advising. Like many have said, you only spend a few short years in college and your "sorority life" really takes off after college. The goods news for the chapter I worked with is that our part of the country is a little more forgiving than the south, so with a little work and love the have flourished and accomplished amazing things in a short period of time.

Sallie - I am so glad you didn't pass up an opportunity to be part of an amazing group. I am assuming you are a Tri-Delta from your user-name. Tri-Delta is an amazing group and some of my very favorite NPC mentors are your sisters. Great lesson here. Thank you for posting.

P.S. I love your HQ building!

aumom2010 · #10 08-13-2010, 01:10 PM

Thanks to those who have posted messages of support and to those who have sent private messages. She is meeting with her Pi Chi, who will probably encourage her to go to the party.

Whether or not to go will be her decision. In the course of being her Mom for the past 18 years, I have found that she has pretty good instincts and almost always makes good decisions, and so I will trust her to make the right decision in this case.

I will probably continue to lurk here for another day or two, but i may or may not post.

She does have another campus activity which will hold tryouts next week. hopefully that will have a better outcome.

And I wasn't going to mention this, but we found out that her grandfather has cancer this week. She doesn't know yet, so please keep her in your thoughts.

ree-Xi · #11 08-13-2010, 03:38 PM

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Originally Posted by aumom2010

I tried to post this earlier, but I don't think it worked, so it may be a repeat.

Rush for Cassie is over. The two groups she liked released her. The other group which she definitely feels is wrong for her invited her, but she will not attend unless required to do so.

She is still interested in COB, but we both know that that may not work out for her.

I am probably more upset than she is at this point. I really don't care if she doesn't pledge, but my heart aches for her disappointment. She feels insulted, rejected, and embarrassed right now.

I know lots of wonderful girls are released during the process, but the fact remains that about 800 or more girls somehow measured up, and she was found lacking.

She will get past this and I know things will probably work out in the end.

Best of luck to Suzie, Emma, and Stephanie. Thanks to all of you who have been supportive.

I highly recommend that she still attend that pref party. She has absolutely nothing to lose and possible membership to gain. They liked her enough to put her somewhere on their bid list (where she falls will determine if she makes the cut).

She WAS NOT FOUND LACKING. She is one of those 800 girls; she has a house of 150 girls (or more) who want her.

I guess I just can't see not giving them one more chance, since they gave her one more.

WarEagle07 · #12 08-13-2010, 05:27 PM

There are more sororities involved in COB at Auburn than many of you think..some very good ones, not just 'less desirable' so to speak. It isn't only graduation that has an impact on member totals, it's the economy. With the downturn in the economy many girls have had to take alumni status. There is a large student population at Auburn from Georgia and many students have been forced to transfer back to Georgia schools where they receive in state tuition. Not that any girl should rely on COB if they can get a bid during formal recruitment, but if someone is completely cut then there is still a chance of finding a sorority home where she will be happy. I almost feel like the days of there being a stigma attached to sororities participating in COB are long gone as more top tier houses participate in order to keep their finances stable.