Auburn University Recruitment - Fall 2010

[33girl]

Originally Posted by auburnmom09

33 girl just curious are you familiar with Auburn i.e. are you an alum of Auburn or do you have family in sororities there? I just wondered because you offered advice to aumom2010 to not even consider COB should the need arise.

That is NOT what I said. I said 1) not to count on it being a possibility and 2) if she didn't like Cookie Dough/the 3rd chapter because they are small, they might be one of the groups she'll end up directed to visit if she signs up for COB.

There are schools where total is set crazy artificially high and pretty much every sorority has to COB every rush even if they make quota. At a school like that you can conceivably get cut and then get COBed by the sorority who cut you. I don't think that is the case here. There are statistically enough girls rushing to put all the chapters over total.

Oh, and not being "top tier" has NOTHING to do with how many girls a group can take. If they don't take quota, or if they take quota and still aren't at total, THEN they can take women through COB. But if a group takes quota and is at total, it doesn't make a damn bit of difference what "tier" they are. It's about number of members not popularity on campus.

When people start asking "when is COB?" when they still have groups left to visit, that's when it's time for a reality check and to tell them the groups doing the most COBing are often (not always, but often) the ones they cut to begin with. I don't mean one or two spots to fill, I mean groups appreciably smaller than the norm.

I'm not criticizing your daughter's sorority so please get your knickers out of their turbo-twist. I'm just trying to caution a mom and daughter not to think that something "better" might be there when it might not even exist.

ETA: I edited my post to make it more glaringly clear what I meant.

[aumom2010]

For the record,

I said that she would probably try COB if she gets NO invites back tomorrow morning before the pref round, which we are trying to realistically consider as a possibility seeing as she has only 3 invites total today. At that point, it would not be an issue of turning something down in order to try COB.

If she has invites tomorrow, she will go, and after those parties make up her mind about pledging. I would encourage her to list the two she sort of likes as choices, but in the end it has to be her decision.

The 3rd one, she is convinced is a bad match for her, and it is not my place nor anyone else's to second guess that.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by aumom2010

For the record,

I said that she would probably try COB if she gets NO invites back tomorrow morning before the pref round, which we are trying to realistically consider as a possibility seeing as she has only 3 invites total today. At that point, it would not be an issue of turning something down in order to try COB.

If she has invites tomorrow, she will go, and after those parties make up her mind about pledging. I would encourage her to list the two she sort of likes as choices, but in the end it has to be her decision.

The 3rd one, she is convinced is a bad match for her, and it is not my place nor anyone else's to second guess that.

I wouldn't take anything anyone says as second guessing, just as gentle reality checking. We've all been around long enough to see that PNMs frequently don't fully understand the consequences of these decisions, but we also know that forcing something that doesn't feel right just doesn't work. Your daughter has to really want it to work, make a real effort to fit in and realize that it won't be an immediate feeling of "we're SISTERS!!!!" The results can be amazing. If she doesn't think she can do that with the 3rd group, that's her prerogative.