Auburn University Recruitment - Fall 2010

[aumom2010]

For the record,

I said that she would probably try COB if she gets NO invites back tomorrow morning before the pref round, which we are trying to realistically consider as a possibility seeing as she has only 3 invites total today. At that point, it would not be an issue of turning something down in order to try COB.

If she has invites tomorrow, she will go, and after those parties make up her mind about pledging. I would encourage her to list the two she sort of likes as choices, but in the end it has to be her decision.

The 3rd one, she is convinced is a bad match for her, and it is not my place nor anyone else's to second guess that.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by aumom2010

For the record,

I said that she would probably try COB if she gets NO invites back tomorrow morning before the pref round, which we are trying to realistically consider as a possibility seeing as she has only 3 invites total today. At that point, it would not be an issue of turning something down in order to try COB.

If she has invites tomorrow, she will go, and after those parties make up her mind about pledging. I would encourage her to list the two she sort of likes as choices, but in the end it has to be her decision.

The 3rd one, she is convinced is a bad match for her, and it is not my place nor anyone else's to second guess that.

I wouldn't take anything anyone says as second guessing, just as gentle reality checking. We've all been around long enough to see that PNMs frequently don't fully understand the consequences of these decisions, but we also know that forcing something that doesn't feel right just doesn't work. Your daughter has to really want it to work, make a real effort to fit in and realize that it won't be an immediate feeling of "we're SISTERS!!!!" The results can be amazing. If she doesn't think she can do that with the 3rd group, that's her prerogative.