Auburn University Recruitment - Fall 2010

[33girl]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

I think she should "worry" - that's not the right word - think about it - today. Try to look at it this way - she can concentrate on the groups that at first, she probably didn't pay too much attention to. If she has specific reasons why she doesn't like them, perhaps she can try to tactfully find out if they are just assumptions, or if they truly are "not for her". If she wants to be Greek, she needs to be open to the choices in front of her.

I understand her disappointment, but some girls might have none. It takes ONE. If she's enthusiastic about learning more about theses three groups, she might open her heart to a group of girls she otherwise would have dismissed.

Her perception of "party group" is based on...what? Tent talk? I guarantee in that in the "party sorority" of 150-200 members, maybe 10-15% are hard-core partiers (and I'm guessing on the high side). What about the other 85-90%? Find connections in the girls who aren't majoring in "party".

Cosign. She's a lot luckier than some other girls. She needs to get rid of ALL her preconceptions and pretend this is the first day of rush at a school that only has these three sororities. Because for her, it is.

[Katmandu]

Originally Posted by 33girl

...pretend this is the first day of rush at a school that only has these three sororities. Because for her, it is.

I have never heard it put this way before, and I think this is a GREAT way to view it. This is the first day of rush, and these are the choices--and they want you.

[AXOrushadvisor]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Cosign. She's a lot luckier than some other girls. She needs to get rid of ALL her preconceptions and pretend this is the first day of rush at a school that only has these three sororities. Because for her, it is.

What she said! I love this and it is so true. I'm going to remember this and use it often!

[AUmom2]

I've been reading your comments all week. It's been great reading about others' experience. I'm especially grateful to the optimistic experts who have shared excellent advice! I have to be honest and say that I've been a little obsessed and stressed about the recruitment process.

Coming from out of state, my D had heard nothing about each sorority's reputation, so she's really focused on how she feels around the girls and their philanthropies. She has heard a lot since starting the recruitment process, but she's continued with her open-minded attitude. Other than the Ice Water Teas, she's really enjoyed it. She said that the IWT round was overwhelming, but she loved the philanthropy round!

Although she has had one sorority that has stood out since day one, she says she knows she would be happy with any in her top seven. Of course, that was before I received a text from her this morning that she had been released by two in her top 7, but had been invited back to her number 8 and 9 choices.

The advice here has been tremendous! I'll share much of it with my daughter tonight again.

She said that she knows she'll be happy with just about any of them, so I think our outcome will be a positive one.

I'll update tonight or tomorrow.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Cosign. She's a lot luckier than some other girls. She needs to get rid of ALL her preconceptions and pretend this is the first day of rush at a school that only has these three sororities. Because for her, it is.

Quoting again for awesomeness.


It's hard, but everyday PNMs have to wipe the slate clean and look at it like this.

As hard as it is, the chapters on your card are the ones who WANTED YOU enough to ask you back.

Yes, I know you liked XYZ a lot and you are sad that maybe your neighbor or roommate got an invite.

Moping about them isn't going to get you back in their doors.

Sometimes PNMs get soo upset and they drop out because XYZ cut them.

All that gets you is sad sitting in your dorm watching everyone else go to their parties.

So it is best to focus on what you HAVE.

[aumom2010]

Cassie is for now sticking with recruitment. We talked about going today and looking for the positive things. We will see how she feels at the end of the day. And then of course we will have to see if she gets any invites for the pref round.

[thetygerlily]

Originally Posted by aumom2010

Cassie is for now sticking with recruitment. We talked about going today and looking for the positive things. We will see how she feels at the end of the day. And then of course we will have to see if she gets any invites for the pref round.

This is great to hear- best of luck to her! I know there was one group going into this round that she wasn't feeling, but I strongly urge her to visit any and all Pref parties that she is invited to. If you've read many of the recruitment stories here, you know that many wind up falling in love with a chapter they previously weren't in love with. Pref can be a magical night- anything can happen.

But I'm getting ahead of myself here. Can't wait to hear back about Cassie, Emma, and Suzie's experiences today! I am absolutely loving these parent/rec updates.

[perfectinpurple]

Originally Posted by aumom2010

Cassie is for now sticking with recruitment. We talked about going today and looking for the positive things. We will see how she feels at the end of the day. And then of course we will have to see if she gets any invites for the pref round.

Yay!!!!