Auburn University Recruitment - Fall 2010

[aumom2010]

I afraid that I have not so great news this morning.

Cassie was cut by all of her top 7 choices.

She has 3 invites for skit day.

(1)Strawberry--Which she likes the girls, but has heard that they are a party group, and that worries her.

(2)Chunky Monkey--Which is actually supposedly one of the better groups, but she has not felt at home there all week.

(3) Cookie Dough--Which she says she will definitely not pledge.

She was obviously upset this morning, and feels like everyone else will have a full schedule, which I tried to assure her was not true.

I tried to urge her to go through the day with a positive attitude and try to see how she might fit in with either of the first two groups. I think we are both worried that she might not get any invites for the preference round, but i guess we will worry about that tomorrow.

[AXOrushadvisor]

Originally Posted by aumom2010

I afraid that I have not so great news this morning.

Cassie was cut by all of her top 7 choices.

She has 3 invites for skit day.

(1)Strawberry--Which she likes the girls, but has heard that they are a party group, and that worries her.

(2)Chunky Monkey--Which is actually supposedly one of the better groups, but she has not felt at home there all week.

(3) Cookie Dough--Which she says she will definitely not pledge.

She was obviously upset this morning, and feels like everyone else will have a full schedule, which I tried to assure her was not true.

I tried to urge her to go through the day with a positive attitude and try to see how she might fit in with either of the first two groups. I think we are both worried that she might not get any invites for the preference round, but i guess we will worry about that tomorrow.

AUMom, My niece went through recruitment 6 years ago at a competitive PAC 10 school. She had the perfect recruitment up until Pref where she was dropped from every group she LOVED and left with 2 groups that she thought were just ok. I got a phone call in tears over what she should do, what happened ect. I told her she had 2 options. She sticks it out and attends the 2 preference parties and makes a decision then OR she could drop out and forget about being Greek and move on. She chose option number 1. She pledged this group and the weird thing is it was a perfect fit for her. She didn't realize it at the time. She still is wistful for one group on campus (which cracks me up), but she has now graduated. She had a wonderful sorority experience and made life long friends in the process. BTW, she is as crazy about recruitment as I am

I feel for your daughter. It is so hard when your kids have disappointments in life. I always want to take away all the hurt. I think your daughter has a good chance of moving forward and I hope she gets to know her remaining groups better. Hang in there!

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by aumom2010

I afraid that I have not so great news this morning.

Cassie was cut by all of her top 7 choices.

She has 3 invites for skit day.

(1)Strawberry--Which she likes the girls, but has heard that they are a party group, and that worries her.

(2)Chunky Monkey--Which is actually supposedly one of the better groups, but she has not felt at home there all week.

(3) Cookie Dough--Which she says she will definitely not pledge.

She was obviously upset this morning, and feels like everyone else will have a full schedule, which I tried to assure her was not true.

I tried to urge her to go through the day with a positive attitude and try to see how she might fit in with either of the first two groups. I think we are both worried that she might not get any invites for the preference round, but i guess we will worry about that tomorrow.

I think she should "worry" - that's not the right word - think about it - today. Try to look at it this way - she can concentrate on the groups that at first, she probably didn't pay too much attention to. If she has specific reasons why she doesn't like them, perhaps she can try to tactfully find out if they are just assumptions, or if they truly are "not for her". If she wants to be Greek, she needs to be open to the choices in front of her.

I understand her disappointment, but some girls might have none. It takes ONE. If she's enthusiastic about learning more about theses three groups, she might open her heart to a group of girls she otherwise would have dismissed.

Her perception of "party group" is based on...what? Tent talk? I guarantee in that in the "party sorority" of 150-200 members, maybe 10-15% are hard-core partiers (and I'm guessing on the high side). What about the other 85-90%? Find connections in the girls who aren't majoring in "party".

[33girl]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

I think she should "worry" - that's not the right word - think about it - today. Try to look at it this way - she can concentrate on the groups that at first, she probably didn't pay too much attention to. If she has specific reasons why she doesn't like them, perhaps she can try to tactfully find out if they are just assumptions, or if they truly are "not for her". If she wants to be Greek, she needs to be open to the choices in front of her.

I understand her disappointment, but some girls might have none. It takes ONE. If she's enthusiastic about learning more about theses three groups, she might open her heart to a group of girls she otherwise would have dismissed.

Her perception of "party group" is based on...what? Tent talk? I guarantee in that in the "party sorority" of 150-200 members, maybe 10-15% are hard-core partiers (and I'm guessing on the high side). What about the other 85-90%? Find connections in the girls who aren't majoring in "party".

Cosign. She's a lot luckier than some other girls. She needs to get rid of ALL her preconceptions and pretend this is the first day of rush at a school that only has these three sororities. Because for her, it is.

[Katmandu]

Originally Posted by 33girl

...pretend this is the first day of rush at a school that only has these three sororities. Because for her, it is.

I have never heard it put this way before, and I think this is a GREAT way to view it. This is the first day of rush, and these are the choices--and they want you.

[AXOrushadvisor]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Cosign. She's a lot luckier than some other girls. She needs to get rid of ALL her preconceptions and pretend this is the first day of rush at a school that only has these three sororities. Because for her, it is.

What she said! I love this and it is so true. I'm going to remember this and use it often!

[AUmom2]

I've been reading your comments all week. It's been great reading about others' experience. I'm especially grateful to the optimistic experts who have shared excellent advice! I have to be honest and say that I've been a little obsessed and stressed about the recruitment process.

Coming from out of state, my D had heard nothing about each sorority's reputation, so she's really focused on how she feels around the girls and their philanthropies. She has heard a lot since starting the recruitment process, but she's continued with her open-minded attitude. Other than the Ice Water Teas, she's really enjoyed it. She said that the IWT round was overwhelming, but she loved the philanthropy round!

Although she has had one sorority that has stood out since day one, she says she knows she would be happy with any in her top seven. Of course, that was before I received a text from her this morning that she had been released by two in her top 7, but had been invited back to her number 8 and 9 choices.

The advice here has been tremendous! I'll share much of it with my daughter tonight again.

She said that she knows she'll be happy with just about any of them, so I think our outcome will be a positive one.

I'll update tonight or tomorrow.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Cosign. She's a lot luckier than some other girls. She needs to get rid of ALL her preconceptions and pretend this is the first day of rush at a school that only has these three sororities. Because for her, it is.

Quoting again for awesomeness.


It's hard, but everyday PNMs have to wipe the slate clean and look at it like this.

As hard as it is, the chapters on your card are the ones who WANTED YOU enough to ask you back.

Yes, I know you liked XYZ a lot and you are sad that maybe your neighbor or roommate got an invite.

Moping about them isn't going to get you back in their doors.

Sometimes PNMs get soo upset and they drop out because XYZ cut them.

All that gets you is sad sitting in your dorm watching everyone else go to their parties.

So it is best to focus on what you HAVE.

[aumom2010]

Cassie is for now sticking with recruitment. We talked about going today and looking for the positive things. We will see how she feels at the end of the day. And then of course we will have to see if she gets any invites for the pref round.

[thetygerlily]

Originally Posted by aumom2010

Cassie is for now sticking with recruitment. We talked about going today and looking for the positive things. We will see how she feels at the end of the day. And then of course we will have to see if she gets any invites for the pref round.

This is great to hear- best of luck to her! I know there was one group going into this round that she wasn't feeling, but I strongly urge her to visit any and all Pref parties that she is invited to. If you've read many of the recruitment stories here, you know that many wind up falling in love with a chapter they previously weren't in love with. Pref can be a magical night- anything can happen.

But I'm getting ahead of myself here. Can't wait to hear back about Cassie, Emma, and Suzie's experiences today! I am absolutely loving these parent/rec updates.

[perfectinpurple]

Originally Posted by aumom2010

Cassie is for now sticking with recruitment. We talked about going today and looking for the positive things. We will see how she feels at the end of the day. And then of course we will have to see if she gets any invites for the pref round.

Yay!!!!

[Katmandu]

Originally Posted by aumom2010

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(3) Cookie Dough--Which she says she will definitely not pledge.

I am sorry she is disappointed, it's a tough week for sure. It is FAR too early in the game for her to say she will definitely NOT pledge a certain group. With 200+ members, there is something for everyone in each of these chapters. Encourage her to see that her opinions can change, sometimes drastically with each round, and Cookie Dough might actually turn out to be a great fit for her. Good luck to all of them.