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Old 08-09-2010, 09:13 PM
honeyD honeyD is offline
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Thankyou for the spelling tips.

I am glad you enjoyed every minute of your pledge time. I did as well but it was all a blur. It was scary and exciting but hard to keep all the facts and papers and everything you were told and given all in order, when in the end all you wanted to do was hurry up and become apart of it!

I am not looking for any sympathy.

True lack of loyalty could be a problem but when something happens in a persons life and they have to transfer and they need a way to make the best of their situation how bad is it to put your loyality to a different sorority? You will always keep a place for the sorority you were in but your new college does not have your old sorority..........and trying to become buds with a bunch of older women in your alumni group or whatever does not sound like that were you want to put your time and effort into.

Lets say you were in a sorority you loved at your college and everything was great!!! but your mom suddenly out of no where coming home from dropping your younger brother off at a bday party on a tuesday night dies by a drunk driver..... and you have to transfer to a huge new college closer to home and because of money issues. And the only way you feel any better about going to a new college and having to start over is if you were to join the sorority your mom was in and be able to meet a group of girls right away and feel apart of something again...............what would you do??wouldent trying to join another sorority possibly cross your mind, especially if you could get deactivated from your previous sorority and your name off the books?
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Old 08-09-2010, 09:19 PM
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Thankyou for the spelling tips.

I am glad you enjoyed every minute of your pledge time. I did as well but it was all a blur. It was scary and exciting but hard to keep all the facts and papers and everything you were told and given all in order, when in the end all you wanted to do was hurry up and become apart of it!

I am not looking for any sympathy.

True lack of loyalty could be a problem but when something happens in a persons life and they have to transfer and they need a way to make the best of their situation how bad is it to put your loyality to a different sorority? You will always keep a place for the sorority you were in but your new college does not have your old sorority..........and trying to become buds with a bunch of older women in your alumni group or whatever does not sound like that were you want to put your time and effort into.

Lets say you were in a sorority you loved at your college and everything was great!!! but your mom suddenly out of no where coming home from dropping your younger brother off at a bday party on a tuesday night dies by a drunk driver..... and you have to transfer to a huge new college closer to home and because of money issues. And the only way you feel any better about going to a new college and having to start over is if you were to join the sorority your mom was in and be able to meet a group of girls right away and feel apart of something again...............what would you do??wouldent trying to join another sorority possibly cross your mind, especially if you could get deactivated from your previous sorority and your name off the books?
You seriously don't see how this is being disloyal? And I have a newsflash for you. MEMBERSHIP IS FOR LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Old 08-09-2010, 09:23 PM
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Thankyou for the spelling tips.

I am glad you enjoyed every minute of your pledge time. I did as well but it was all a blur. It was scary and exciting but hard to keep all the facts and papers and everything you were told and given all in order, when in the end all you wanted to do was hurry up and become apart of it!

I am not looking for any sympathy.

True lack of loyalty could be a problem but when something happens in a persons life and they have to transfer and they need a way to make the best of their situation how bad is it to put your loyality to a different sorority? You will always keep a place for the sorority you were in but your new college does not have your old sorority..........and trying to become buds with a bunch of older women in your alumni group or whatever does not sound like that were you want to put your time and effort into.

Lets say you were in a sorority you loved at your college and everything was great!!! but your mom suddenly out of no where coming home from dropping your younger brother off at a bday party on a tuesday night dies by a drunk driver..... and you have to transfer to a huge new college closer to home and because of money issues. And the only way you feel any better about going to a new college and having to start over is if you were to join the sorority your mom was in and be able to meet a group of girls right away and feel apart of something again...............what would you do??wouldent trying to join another sorority possibly cross your mind, especially if you could get deactivated from your previous sorority and your name off the books?
You can suggest whatever fictitious special circumstances you want.

It doesn't matter what I would do because I know that I was told as a new member what there are no exceptions to the rule.

There are NO exceptions.

None.

No there are no loopholes.

No there are no higher-ups for you to complain to and try to get a different answer.

The answer is no.

My goodness.

I honestly do not know what you are looking for us to tell you.



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Old 08-09-2010, 09:30 PM
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I'm sure that there are people who could join 2 groups because of extenuating circumstances and do it respectfully. However, they've been far outweighed by the people who DON'T do it respectfully.

I haven't seen anything in any of your posts where you say that you would discuss this with your sisters from your first college, or that they feel bad that you are in the situation you're in, or that you would like to keep them as friends even if there was a way you could terminate your membership in the sorority. You just keep yammering on about "a sorority is the best way to meet girls your age."

You just want to kick the women who offered you sisterhood and friendship to the curb because it's inconvenient for you. Sorry, but even if you could do this, from what you've written, I don't think you'd deserve that chance.

p.s. It's not guaranteed that you would get a bid to your mother's sorority, or ANY sorority, at your new school.
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Old 08-09-2010, 09:29 PM
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Thankyou for the spelling tips.

I am glad you enjoyed every minute of your pledge time. I did as well but it was all a blur. It was scary and exciting but hard to keep all the facts and papers and everything you were told and given all in order, when in the end all you wanted to do was hurry up and become apart of it!

I am not looking for any sympathy.

True lack of loyalty could be a problem but when something happens in a persons life and they have to transfer and they need a way to make the best of their situation how bad is it to put your loyality to a different sorority? You will always keep a place for the sorority you were in but your new college does not have your old sorority..........and trying to become buds with a bunch of older women in your alumni group or whatever does not sound like that were you want to put your time and effort into.

Lets say you were in a sorority you loved at your college and everything was great!!! but your mom suddenly out of no where coming home from dropping your younger brother off at a bday party on a tuesday night dies by a drunk driver..... and you have to transfer to a huge new college closer to home and because of money issues. And the only way you feel any better about going to a new college and having to start over is if you were to join the sorority your mom was in and be able to meet a group of girls right away and feel apart of something again...............what would you do??wouldent trying to join another sorority possibly cross your mind, especially if you could get deactivated from your previous sorority and your name off the books?
You promise to remain loyal to one organization and if you break that promise, that's dishonest. It's your prerogative, but I do think that if it meant little the first time around, a new sorority won't mean very much, either. Many, many women (and men) are in your same position. Some do try to sneak into a new organization. When they are caught they lose membership in both organizations and likely lose many friends during that process. It's unfortunate. It sucks. I'm sorry you're in that position. But you're probably not going to get any support for choosing to join a different sorority than the one you've already promised to remain loyal to. Being "deactivated" or quitting will not make it "ok" to join another sorority. You will still be in trouble if you are caught, and it is still a disloyal action to take.

I truly believe that is not the only thing that will make you happy. If you do choose to attempt to join a different sorority, you don't need validation from an internet forum. You decide if it's worth the risk. It is against the rules, period. There is no other answer.
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Old 08-10-2010, 04:37 AM
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Lets say you were in a sorority you loved at your college and everything was great!!! but your mom suddenly out of no where coming home from dropping your younger brother off at a bday party on a tuesday night dies by a drunk driver..... and you have to transfer to a huge new college closer to home and because of money issues. And the only way you feel any better about going to a new college and having to start over is if you were to join the sorority your mom was in and be able to meet a group of girls right away and feel apart of something again...............what would you do??wouldent trying to join another sorority possibly cross your mind, especially if you could get deactivated from your previous sorority and your name off the books?
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Last year I went to college as a freshmen and joined a sorority to try and make my college experience better along with meeting new people. Over the summer I learned that my parents could not afford to send me to that college any more and I needed to transfer to another college closer to home, and to help out my family. I am at the college were my whole family went and my mom, aunt, cousins, and grandma were all in the same sorority. I want to be able to experience meeting new friends and being in that bond of sisterhood at this new school and in general! But I am in a tough situation because I already had pledged in another sorority at a different college and the sorority is not at my new college. Is there anything I can possibly do to be in the same sorority my mom and family was in at the new college I am at to try and have that sisterhood experience? I understand there are many polocies and rules about this... but this was out of my control! Please let me know if there is anything I can do. Thankyou.
Sorry but I'm going to say it. I call bullshit. First your parents couldn't afford your old school. Now your mom was tragically killed in an accident and omg being in her sorority is the only thing that will make your life complete and thank God your previous sisters will completely erase your name from any records that sorority has! Duck tales. Really.

That aside, with every one of the eleventy bajillion female members of your family for the last three generations having been members of this chapter, someone at some time is eventually going to mention your previous membership to someone who won't take this supposed exceptional situation so lightly.

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Old 08-10-2010, 09:18 AM
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Duck tales. Really.
And this (your previous post)is why I think you rule. How did everyone else miss that? *smacks self on forehead*

Have a great day, Barbie's_Rush!
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