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Originally Posted by DrPhil
You said what you really meant the first time. You think recruitment itself is frivolous and silly; and your sorority is "just a sorority." Your longwinded explanations are just "saves" that are making you protest too much.
You're typing to grown women (perhaps older than you?) who are well aware of our priorities in life and what it means to have a sisterhood without losing oneself. That is a given. The fact that you randomly chose to go on these rants is really amusing to say the least.  |
I did say what I meant the first time. I said:
"I very much love my organization and being in a sorority certainly shaped my college experience. I learned a LOT about how to interact with others, how to balance a million things at once, how to make rules and how to follow them, and made many friends that I will have for years to come. I love that I share a ritual with thousands of other women that I've never even met. That's pretty cool. Oh, and I had a lot of fun, too.
But at the end of the day, it's just a sorority."
I also said:
I have always found the process to be frivolous and in general, silly. I genuinely use the word silly. We sit in parties in cute dresses, making small talk with our peers, and then choose our new members based on that small time together combined with the application they sent in. We watch what we say, follow a myriad of complicated and as my mom would say "nit-picky" rules, and yes, even make comments about what girls are wearing. PNM's are just as likely to judge actives on appearance as actives are to do the same to PNM's. Probably more so, since PNM's are new to the whole process and can get overwhelmed trying to remember 15 different sororities. It's easy to break them into categories. Who is hot...who is not.
Who here is going to pretend they or someone in their recruitment group DIDN'T once say "I like them but they're so (insert shallow derogatory comment here)"? Some girls are given bids because they are funny, nice, down to earth women who are kind to others. But sometimes a girl gets dropped because she dated a sister's ex boyfriend. Or because she shows a little too much cleavage. Or because her GPA is a
smidge too low. Or because she did that one keg stand the first week of school. Maybe those girls are all extremely amazing people who are great listeners, selfless, and kind. Sometimes a girl gets a bid because she's best friends with an active. Or because she's extremely pretty. Or because her cousin is someone famous. Or because her mom is a very active alum. Maybe all those girls are selfish, rude, and obnoxious. Yep. Silly. And our sisters did the same thing to us the year before. It's a week long audition and both actives and PNMs are putting on a show...that may or may not reflect who they will be after recruitment is over and bids are given out. Expecting thousands of college aged women to make very mature decisions at all turns isn't realistic"
I have no idea who I am "typing to" and don't really care. It
is ok for everyone here to have had different experiences with their respective organizations, put their family first, their sorority first, their career first, whatever. And having different opinions certainly does not cheapen anyone else's experience.
So, again, there is no disagreement here. There are different opinions. There is
nothing wrong with my having my own opinion and there is
nothing wrong with everyone else having their own.
ETA: Let's put it this way...these are things I believe/feel. If you don't agree with them, great! If you do, great! It in no way effects your own experience with your organization, your life, your feelings, etc. No one in this thread has put down GL, sororities, fraternities, etc. I get to have individual opinions and so does everyone else. That's the beauty of being human. We are ALL unique snowflakes.
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