University of Arizona recruitment

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by bear_down

All of it's a big deal you condescending toad.

Aw you're cute.

Missing a party will definitely get her released from that chapter and very well may get her released from recruitment completely.

Hence why I said "I get that." It sounds like she's gotten that advice and knows who to talk to about it.

The even bigger deal is that dad is already threatening her financially.

Thus far he's only said "you can't be off work that night." We don't know if there's a reason why he can't spare her that one night or not. Or if this is a pattern of financial manipulation or not.

The recruitment schedule has been available for months. Recruitment is still a couple weeks away but he's not willing to make any acommodations for her.

Hence why I, among others, have recommended she talk to her dad about it and make sure he's aware of the time commitment. Even if there's no way she can get out of work this one night.

Work happens but to gave this kind of drama before you're even a member I'd something that she really needs to consider and talk to her dad about.

She should talk to her dad, but this isn't actually "drama." Not as of yet. It sounds like you're projecting other experiences into the things that this individual PNM has actually said.

Being a sister is a big responsibility and they both need to know about it since he's paying her way AND her boss.

Agree completely.

[bear_down]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

Aw you're cute.
Hence why I said "I get that." It sounds like she's gotten that advice and knows who to talk to about it.
Thus far he's only said "you can't be off work that night." We don't know if there's a reason why he can't spare her that one night or not. Or if this is a pattern of financial manipulation or not.
Hence why I, among others, have recommended she talk to her dad about it and make sure he's aware of the time commitment. Even if there's no way she can get out of work this one night.
She should talk to her dad, but this isn't actually "drama." Not as of yet. It sounds like you're projecting other experiences into the things that this individual PNM has actually said.
Agree completely.

Ribit ribit.

I'm just stating how things are today at my school. Not how they were 150 million years ago at some commuter school with no greeklife to speak of.

[HDL66]

When I was in school '150 million years ago," a standard essay question always started out "Compare and contrast." Let's compare and contrast these posts.

Originally Posted by bear_down

Sorry but you're not at all familiar with the way things work at my school. This is a big deal.

Originally Posted by Drolefille

What is? Missing a party? No I get that. But it doesn't mean re-evaluating whether Greek Life is "right for her."

I'd be surprised if U of AZ is the only school where Greek women don't have to balance work, sorority and academics.

ETA: It's always more useful if you explain what the "big deal" is when you assume someone's not getting it.

This would be considered respectful discourse.

Originally Posted by bear_down

All of it's a big deal you condescending toad. .

Originally Posted by bear_down

Ribit ribit.

I'm just stating how things are today at my school. Not how they were 150 million years ago at some commuter school with no greeklife to speak of.

This would be considered an arrogant, disrepectful and insolent respsonse coming from a brat.

//Putting away red pen.

[olivia2424]

Sorry I didn't mean to start any fights. But to answer your questions, my dad is in the catering business and I was supposed to help clean up a wedding afterwards. It doesn't sound like that big of a deal, and I guess my dad just is big on responsibility and obligation. I am going to try to talk to him again and see what I can do, but your generalization about my dad isn't correct. He doesn't usually do this, only when I have an obligation to do something. So he understands that when I'm in a sorority that is a commitment I have made and he is willing to support that financially 100%. It does concern me about how competitive you have made recruitment out to be at UofA (and I'm sure you're right) so I am going to try to figure things out and not miss anything. Because I KNOW greek life is for me, I've thought about it for a long time and know it's at least worth trying. (Especially because I already registered, why would I waste the money and potentially miss out on an amazing opportunity to become a part of a new family???)

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by olivia2424

Sorry I didn't mean to start any fights. But to answer your questions, my dad is in the catering business and I was supposed to help clean up a wedding afterwards. It doesn't sound like that big of a deal, and I guess my dad just is big on responsibility and obligation. I am going to try to talk to him again and see what I can do, but your generalization about my dad isn't correct. He doesn't usually do this, only when I have an obligation to do something. So he understands that when I'm in a sorority that is a commitment I have made and he is willing to support that financially 100%. It does concern me about how competitive you have made recruitment out to be at UofA (and I'm sure you're right) so I am going to try to figure things out and not miss anything. Because I KNOW greek life is for me, I've thought about it for a long time and know it's at least worth trying. (Especially because I already registered, why would I waste the money and potentially miss out on an amazing opportunity to become a part of a new family???)

Definitely try to figure out a way not to miss parties with the "speed party" thing as a last resort. Maybe volunteer for some extra work in advance to make it up to your dad and tell him you would not have asked to break a commitment unless you thought you had to.

Good luck and do let us know how everything turns out!

ETA: You didn't start any fights, that's just how message boards work at times. Tangents happen all over.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by olivia2424

Sorry I didn't mean to start any fights. But to answer your questions, my dad is in the catering business and I was supposed to help clean up a wedding afterwards. It doesn't sound like that big of a deal, and I guess my dad just is big on responsibility and obligation. I am going to try to talk to him again and see what I can do, but your generalization about my dad isn't correct. He doesn't usually do this, only when I have an obligation to do something. So he understands that when I'm in a sorority that is a commitment I have made and he is willing to support that financially 100%. It does concern me about how competitive you have made recruitment out to be at UofA (and I'm sure you're right) so I am going to try to figure things out and not miss anything. Because I KNOW greek life is for me, I've thought about it for a long time and know it's at least worth trying. (Especially because I already registered, why would I waste the money and potentially miss out on an amazing opportunity to become a part of a new family???)

See if you can get one of your friends or someone else to help him out (and they can earn a little extra $$). Tell him that if you have to miss a party or do the abbreviated rush, you may be seriously jeopardizing your chances at the group that is right for you (and therefore throwing your rush fee down the toilet).

[Psi U MC Vito]

Originally Posted by bear_down

Ribit ribit.

I'm just stating how things are today at my school. Not how they were 150 million years ago at some commuter school with no greeklife to speak of.

Who Drole, that must make you the world's oldest woman. And you can't truly be in a sorority since you went to a school with no greek life.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by Psi U MC Vito

Who Drole, that must make you the world's oldest woman. And you can't truly be in a sorority since you went to a school with no greek life.

I am the Ur-Greek. The true Greek from which all Greeks descended.

Apparently I also speak frog or something. I have no idea why I got ribit [sic] as a response.

Back in MY day... 8 years ago... we were LUCKY if we learned to speak amphibian. And you mammals were Sooooooooo overrated.