University of Arizona recruitment

[olivia2424]

well maybe I will just have to skip a party. I will still get to see 10 sororities. it really sucks and I wish I could reschedule but I can't. I work for my Dad, so no one can "cover" for me. and I asked him if I could skip work and he said no. and he pays for my school as well as if I am in a sorority. so I literally have no choice.

[bear_down]

Originally Posted by olivia2424

well maybe I will just have to skip a party. I will still get to see 10 sororities. it really sucks and I wish I could reschedule but I can't. I work for my Dad, so no one can "cover" for me. and I asked him if I could skip work and he said no. and he pays for my school as well as if I am in a sorority. so I literally have no choice.

I don't mean for this to be mean sounding, but I think you need to completely re-evaluate whether or not greeklife is for you. There are a lot of mandatory meetings and activities especially when you are a new member plus lots of fun things you just won't want to miss. If your dad isn't willing or able to give up an hour or two of your time for rush, things are going to get pretty stressful pretty fast if you end up in a sorority. You need to talk to him now about what all of it will mean for the next four years.

I haven't heard of speed rushing either. Missing a party on your first days would not be a good thing at all either.

I would wear a skirt or cute casual dress, not the shorts. You will be really unhappy in white shorts if it rains!

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by bear_down

I don't mean for this to be mean sounding, but I think you need to completely re-evaluate whether or not greeklife is for you. There are a lot of mandatory meetings and activities especially when you are a new member plus lots of fun things you just won't want to miss. If your dad isn't willing or able to give up an hour or two of your time for rush, things are going to get pretty stressful pretty fast if you end up in a sorority. You need to talk to him now about what all of it will mean for the next four years.

I haven't heard of speed rushing either. Missing a party on your first days would not be a good thing at all either.

I would wear a skirt or cute casual dress, not the shorts. You will be really unhappy in white shorts if it rains!

I disagree. Sorority women work too. Facing the possibility of missing one party of 10, or better, splitting a party so time is spent with both chapters, is not a "Greek life is not for you" sign.

However you do need to talk to your dad. Even if there's a reason why he can't give you time that night, you need to tell him that you will have chapter meetings and other required events, and you will have to be present for every hour of rush too. (Plus workshops ahead of time and meetings after.)

[bear_down]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

I disagree. Sorority women work too. Facing the possibility of missing one party of 10, or better, splitting a party so time is spent with both chapters, is not a "Greek life is not for you" sign.

However you do need to talk to your dad. Even if there's a reason why he can't give you time that night, you need to tell him that you will have chapter meetings and other required events, and you will have to be present for every hour of rush too. (Plus workshops ahead of time and meetings after.)

Sorry but you're not at all familiar with the way things work at my school. This is a big deal.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by bear_down

Sorry but you're not at all familiar with the way things work at my school. This is a big deal.

What is? Missing a party? No I get that. But it doesn't mean re-evaluating whether Greek Life is "right for her."

I'd be surprised if U of AZ is the only school where Greek women don't have to balance work, sorority and academics.

ETA: It's always more useful if you explain what the "big deal" is when you assume someone's not getting it.

[bear_down]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

What is? Missing a party? No I get that. But it doesn't mean re-evaluating whether Greek Life is "right for her."

I'd be surprised if U of AZ is the only school where Greek women don't have to balance work, sorority and academics.

ETA: It's always more useful if you explain what the "big deal" is when you assume someone's not getting it.

All of it's a big deal you condescending toad. Missing a party will definitely get her released from that chapter and very well may get her released from recruitment completely.

The even bigger deal is that dad is already threatening her financially. The recruitment schedule has been available for months. Recruitment is still a couple weeks away but he's not willing to make any acommodations for her. Work happens but to gave this kind of drama before you're even a member I'd something that she really needs to consider and talk to her dad about. Being a sister is a big responsibility and they both need to know about it since he's paying her way AND her boss.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by bear_down

All of it's a big deal you condescending toad.

Aw you're cute.

Missing a party will definitely get her released from that chapter and very well may get her released from recruitment completely.

Hence why I said "I get that." It sounds like she's gotten that advice and knows who to talk to about it.

The even bigger deal is that dad is already threatening her financially.

Thus far he's only said "you can't be off work that night." We don't know if there's a reason why he can't spare her that one night or not. Or if this is a pattern of financial manipulation or not.

The recruitment schedule has been available for months. Recruitment is still a couple weeks away but he's not willing to make any acommodations for her.

Hence why I, among others, have recommended she talk to her dad about it and make sure he's aware of the time commitment. Even if there's no way she can get out of work this one night.

Work happens but to gave this kind of drama before you're even a member I'd something that she really needs to consider and talk to her dad about.

She should talk to her dad, but this isn't actually "drama." Not as of yet. It sounds like you're projecting other experiences into the things that this individual PNM has actually said.

Being a sister is a big responsibility and they both need to know about it since he's paying her way AND her boss.

Agree completely.