Maximizing your options

[carnation]

Most PNMs would fit into most of them, that's my point. But when someone spouts that line to a PNM who's just been cut from 12 out of 18 sororities at a competitive school after second parties, it doesn't ring true. Especially if she's in-state and in the know, she's aware that in a sorority of around 200 women, there are plenty whom she'd fit in with--and she probably already knows a bunch of them. She doesn't want or need to hear that crap about 'fits'.

I can see how at a medium or small-sized school, sororities would have "personalities" and people would clearly be able to see where they fit. That used to be true even at the big SEC schools. But...no more. Not with the massive pledge classes they have.

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by carnation

Most PNMs would fit into most of them, that's my point. But when someone spouts that line to a PNM who's just been cut from 12 out of 18 sororities at a competitive school after second parties, it doesn't ring true. Especially if she's in-state and in the know, she's aware that in a sorority of around 200 women, there are plenty whom she'd fit in with--and she probably already knows a bunch of them. She doesn't want or need to hear that crap about 'fits'.

I can see how at a medium or small-sized school, sororities would have "personalities" and people would clearly be able to see where they fit. That used to be true even at the big SEC schools. But...no more. Not with the massive pledge classes they have.

too true.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by carnation

Most PNMs would fit into most of them, that's my point. But when someone spouts that line to a PNM who's just been cut from 12 out of 18 sororities at a competitive school after second parties, it doesn't ring true. Especially if she's in-state and in the know, she's aware that in a sorority of around 200 women, there are plenty whom she'd fit in with--and she probably already knows a bunch of them. She doesn't want or need to hear that crap about 'fits'.

I can see how at a medium or small-sized school, sororities would have "personalities" and people would clearly be able to see where they fit. That used to be true even at the big SEC schools. But...no more. Not with the massive pledge classes they have.

It's like any sort of "sympathy" statement. Sometimes it's true and sometimes it's just the speakers best attempt to make the girl feel better. Particularly since if she's in the know she knows that 6 is still good and her recruitment is far from over.

I guess I'm not sure what else you're going to say. You can state fact: You have 6 left and that's really good. Sympathy: I'm sorry that sucks, I'm sure you'll still find your home. or overreaction: They're all bitches, you don't need to be with them anyway. For some girls one or the other of the first two will work, and the 'adult' shouldn't be encouraging the latter.

[turqwind]

Originally Posted by carnation

Most PNMs would fit into most of them, that's my point. But when someone spouts that line to a PNM who's just been cut from 12 out of 18 sororities at a competitive school after second parties, it doesn't ring true. Especially if she's in-state and in the know, she's aware that in a sorority of around 200 women, there are plenty whom she'd fit in with--and she probably already knows a bunch of them. She doesn't want or need to hear that crap about 'fits'.

I can see how at a medium or small-sized school, sororities would have "personalities" and people would clearly be able to see where they fit. That used to be true even at the big SEC schools. But...no more. Not with the massive pledge classes they have.

Thank you, Carnation. If PNM's with six groups left (using your numbers) drop out because they have lost their early favorites, then they will probably lose their chance to be in a GLO and some GLO's will lose some great girls. A girl may be wonderful in all ways and do everything to prepare for a successful recruitment, but if most of the girls in these 150+ "top" sororities have a sister, boyfriend's sister, cousin, neighbor, friend from cheer, band, etc. coming through, it doesn't leave much room for anybody else. Yes, Drolefille, Moms need to be ready to say some or all three: 1) "You still have six great groups looking at you. Give them a chance - they are giving you one." 2) "It does suck. Put on your big girls pants and carry on if this is what you want. If you are SURE this isn't what you want, that's o.k., too. Momma loves you!" 3) "You can't do anything about those other groups (thinking to yourself: "Those rotten little heifers! How dare they cut my perfect child! I will get on my broomstick right now and go see about that!"), so look forward and focus on the groups who are interested in you." "She was/wasn't a good fit," "You will end up where you belong," ... eh, these kind of remind me of Pinto and Flounder being put back on the couch during fraternity rush.

[carnation]

Originally Posted by turqwind

"She was/wasn't a good fit," "You will end up where you belong," ... eh, these kind of remind me of Pinto and Flounder being put back on the couch during fraternity rush.

LOL, too true!