How many PMNs "know" before they even start recruitment?

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Alumiyum

IMO there is no excuse whatsoever for cutting an in house legacy barring some serious defect (like...her GPA is absolutely dismal, she does copious amounts of drugs, she's single handedly spreading steeds to the entire football team, etc.). It's just unkind and not sisterly and makes both the sister and her incoming little sister feel horrible. I really don't give a damn if the incoming sister isn't as cute/fun/well dressed/outgoing/talented as her older sister. My chapter came close to making that mistake, but didn't, and it's a good thing because those members are now well loved and extremely active. (It should never have been a question in the first place as both had great resumes and are friendly, personable girls.) Another chapter on our campus dropped the younger sister of a current member who was a Recruitment Counselor that year. She did not run back to her chapter on Bid Day and couldn't stand to be around them for the rest of her time there, and the girl was blatantly cut because of her appearance. She pledged another chapter and as far as I know was happy there, but she should've been given a choice.

My general opinion is that collegians may make whatever MS decisions they choose, but they NEED to understand that choosing to cut Little Sister is REALLY going to affect Big Sister's relationship with the chapter. As well as relationships with Big Sister's friends in the chapter. You cut her sister, and I doubt she's going to want to sing and chant with you guys on Bid Day, or do anything else.

I've never seen it end well. Both times I knew of it happening with an active sorority member, Big Sister quit. In the instances of recent alumnae younger sisters being cut, I've seen them cut all ties with an org over it.

[Alumiyum]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

My general opinion is that collegians may make whatever MS decisions they choose, but they NEED to understand that choosing to cut Little Sister is REALLY going to affect Big Sister's relationship with the chapter. As well as relationships with Big Sister's friends in the chapter. You cut her sister, and I doubt she's going to want to sing and chant with you guys on Bid Day, or do anything else.

I've never seen it end well. Both times I knew of it happening with an active sorority member, Big Sister quit. In the instances of recent alumnae younger sisters being cut, I've seen them cut all ties with an org over it.

Fully agree. If I had a little sister that got cut from my chapter I wouldn't want anything to do with it, either. (Though I can't say I'd quit my organization...that's a chapter problem, not an organization problem.) The four years I was active I only know of one younger sister getting cut by her older sister's chapter, and it's the one I mentioned. Everyone else seems to have had the sense to know that is not a battle worth fighting unless they have a good enough reason that even the older sister can agree with them. (Which IMO is like I said...super slutbot, a 0.something GPA, a drug problem...that sort of thing).