How many PMNs "know" before they even start recruitment?

[KSUViolet06]

^^^This. Acting familiar is almost as annoying as saying you're a "future XYZ."

I don't think any legacy can really know for sure if they're going to get a bid.

I didn't go to a competitive school at all and yet I saw in-house legacies with sisters who were currently active get cut.

I tend to think that sister legacies are almost more complicated than mother-daughter legacies.

When sister is a current active (or even in some cases a VERY recent alumna) there is potential for the chapter's opinion of SISTER to affect the decisions they make about the legacy.

Ex: If sister is current President and other members seem to have drama with some decision that she's made lately, they might just feel like taking that out on Little Sister and getting her cut.

[TriDeltaSallie]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Ex: If sister is current President and other members seem to have drama with some decision that she's made lately, they might just feel like taking that out on Little Sister and getting her cut.

I've wondered if this happens as well in relation to a chapter's feelings about an adviser, district officer, national board, etc. Kind of the "well, you can make us do x, y or z against our will, but you can't make us extend a bid to anyone we don't want to." Membership selection is an area where the collegiate members really hold a great deal of power. As long as they follow the rules and procedures, there is nothing anyone can really do about the decisions they make.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by TriDeltaSallie

I've wondered if this happens as well in relation to a chapter's feelings about an adviser, district officer, national board, etc. Kind of the "well, you can make us do x, y or z against our will, but you can't make us extend a bid to anyone we don't want to." Membership selection is an area where the collegiate members really hold a great deal of power. As long as they follow the rules and procedures, there is nothing anyone can really do about the decisions they make.

Judging from some of the posts I've read on here, that is sadly not always the case. And those rights also often decrease with the size/prestige of your chapter.

The only power some chapters can have is to treat the person like crap and ignore her after extending the bid and hope she quits. Which is why I think any chapter being forced to take anyone under any circumstance is a horrendous idea. Unless, of course, the woman pledging is only there for the doors XYZ letters will open in one or the other social circles she desires and could care less about sisterhood.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by mittens

I heard from a friend at one competitive school that PNMs know they will get a bid to ABC because actives literally came up to certain girls that are drop dead gorgeous, models, and cheerleaders and offered them a bid a week before recruitment even started. I have a hard time believing this because I would of expected them to be caught for dirty rushing already?? Is this common in other competitive schools?

If this is really truly happening I hope other chapters are filing recruitment infractions and so are the PNMs. This is bid promising, and it's 100% against the rules. Either it's happening and it's wrong, or your friend is a gossiping shrew who is either jealous of these chapters or the PNMs that are supposedly being promised.

Originally Posted by 33girl

Which is why I think any chapter being forced to take anyone under any circumstance is a horrendous idea.

I totally agree. Although, I think there are times when there's pressure on a chapter to take someone, but they're not forced. Both are wrong, but it seems to me (from the outside, as my chapter was never pressured or forced to take anyone, because really, who would bother with my dirty and disgusting COR/deferred formal recruitment campus/chapter) that a lot of chapters are pressured, but if they were still to not give a bid to the legacy or other PNM, probably nothing would happen to them.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by agzg

a lot of chapters are pressured, but if they were still to not give a bid to the legacy or other PNM, probably nothing would happen to them.

Maybe that's true, but a lot of times that isn't how it's presented. It's also a lot different when you're an active vs being a smartass alumna.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Maybe that's true, but a lot of times that isn't how it's presented. It's also a lot different when you're an active vs being a smartass alumna.

I definitely think it's different from our side versus the side of an active. I also think that pressuring a chapter into taking a PNM they don't want is wrong, completely. But I just wonder how many of the groups that do this type of pressure are prepared to rip a charter or follow through with some other threat should it actually happen.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by agzg

I definitely think it's different from our side versus the side of an active. I also think that pressuring a chapter into taking a PNM they don't want is wrong, completely. But I just wonder how many of the groups that do this type of pressure are prepared to rip a charter or follow through with some other threat should it actually happen.

Most of the time, the threat is empty. The alumnae are just trying to get the chapter to take as many as possible and they probably feel that the active girls are being "too picky" so they try to scare them into adding more warm bodies onto their invite lists. If they refuse, nothing happens, except a bunch of mad alumnae. lol.