How Moms Should Treat Their Legacy Daughters

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by Low C Sharp

Here's a hypothetical. Suppose that quota at SEC U is 75, and XYZ, an old, established group, has 80 legacy PNMs. Say that 10 of them genuinely don't meet the XYZ standard, and maybe 5, though qualified, can be expected to choose a different group at prefs. If XYZ keeps all the remaining legacies, that would be 65/75 in its pledge class. We often hear "We can't take them all" or "The whole class would be legacies!"

I don't have a dog in the race, I'm just curious: why not have a class of mostly legacies, if they are qualified? Is it a sense that this would impair the diversity of the class? Are chapters worried about being perceived as exclusive and unfair (would that really be a bad thing at SEC U?)?

Same question, part 2: what if XYZ is a low-to-middle group at SEC U? Then does it make sense to take a mostly-legacy class?



LOL! Sorry, I just thought that was hilarious.

It's not that it's bad to have a pledge class of legacies, it's just that having only legacies probably leaves the actives with little say about who's in their chapter. There could have been 20 other girls at SEC U who would have been 'better fits' for the chapter. And

Originally Posted by dgdramadawg

She ended up really happy in the house she ended up pledging, but her mom was LIVID, and when she talked to her house they said that the PNM must have "slipped through the cracks." How a descendant of a founder could slip through the cracks is beyond me. Rest assured the same did not happen to this girl's younger siblings, though!

Code for "stay out of our membership selection, non-active chapter member."

[gee_ess]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

Code for "stay out of our membership selection, non-active chapter member."

And yet, truthfully, at large recruitments, there are important PNMs who do slip through the cracks. Sometimes, the alums didn't do their homework and let the actives know that an important legacy is coming through. And, often, these young women just aren't that aware of who the "big" alums are for their group.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by gee_ess

And yet, truthfully, at large recruitments, there are important PNMs who do slip through the cracks. Sometimes, the alums didn't do their homework and let the actives know that an important legacy is coming through. And, often, these young women just aren't that aware of who the "big" alums are for their group.

Sure, that's true, too. But I really dislike alums calling and asking about/yelling about/whining about/complaining about their legacy's recruitment.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

Sure, that's true, too. But I really dislike alums calling and asking about/yelling about/whining about/complaining about their legacy's recruitment.

I'm sorry, but I'm not a fan of this either.

I understand that said alumna feels hurt, but I've never seen this type of "why did my legacy get cut?" call go well.

Many times, the alumna unloads on whoever just happens to pick up the phone at the house.

Sometimes, it's just a random active who just happened to walk by the phone --and she gets a total earful from someone she has never met. lol.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I'm sorry, but I'm not a fan of this either.

I understand that said alumna feels hurt, but I've never seen this type of "why did my legacy get cut?" call go well.

Many times, the alumna unloads on whoever just happens to pick up the phone at the house.

Sometimes, it's just a random active who just happened to walk by the phone --and she gets a total earful from someone she has never met. lol.

And any alumnae member should be able to remember from membership selection sessions that the random member that picked up the phone may have had nothing to do with cutting her darling daughter, so yelling at the poor girl is not a sisterly thing to do.

[gee_ess]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I'm sorry, but I'm not a fan of this either.

I understand that said alumna feels hurt, but I've never seen this type of "why did my legacy get cut?" call go well.

Many times, the alumna unloads on whoever just happens to pick up the phone at the house.

Sometimes, it's just a random active who just happened to walk by the phone --and she gets a total earful from someone she has never met. lol.

So true! We tell(preach to) the girls they are not to engage an alum who calls but to take a number and have the recruitment advisor call her back.

As a recruitment advisor, part of my job was to field those calls and I can think of one instance where I did have to say, and truthfully, "She just slipped through the cracks." It was such a sad situation, and I had nothing I could say to the alum other than those words. She was very nice, just hurt and looking for answers (knowing I really couldn't divulge any real info). The pnm was from out of state and no one really knew her.

The pnm legacy went back through the next year after having made some inhouse friends (at several houses) and pledged our group. Happy Ending. I was so happy to have the chance to meet that mom on Bid Day and give her a hug!