How Moms Should Treat Their Legacy Daughters

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

Exactly Drolefille. This member put XYZ first, but she was not on the top of XYZs bidlist despite being a double legacy. They filled their quota before coming to her name on their bidlist, thus she was given a bid to her number 2 group, AOII. She was devestated thinking she had let down her two sisters who had redecorated her room at home in XYZ colors, BTW. She ended up becoming a great AOII, and things worked out just fine.

If she were an ASA legacy, this would not be an issue.

[carnation]

We've discussed it before but I think that there's at least 1 group, Tri Delt, who says on their website that coming to prefs does not guarantee a legacy a bid.

[dgdramadawg]

Originally Posted by carnation

We've discussed it before but I think that there's at least 1 group, Tri Delt, who says on their website that coming to prefs does not guarantee a legacy a bid.

I would think that for some chapters at some schools, they might potentially have so many legacies to choose from that they might be unable to put them all on their first bid list. At my school, I have heard stories from legacies to several groups who attended pref, ranked their legacy groups first, and did not end up in their legacy groups. Specifically, one of these stories involved a descendant of a founder who was a multiple legacy.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by dgdramadawg

I would think that for some chapters at some schools, they might potentially have so many legacies to choose from that they might be unable to put them all on their first bid list. At my school, I have heard stories from legacies to several groups who attended pref, ranked their legacy groups first, and did not end up in their legacy groups. Specifically, one of these stories involved a descendant of a founder who was a multiple legacy.

Yeah, this would not be the reason at my school. We had a good number of legacies every year, but not an overwhelming number.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by Low C Sharp

Here's a hypothetical. Suppose that quota at SEC U is 75, and XYZ, an old, established group, has 80 legacy PNMs. Say that 10 of them genuinely don't meet the XYZ standard, and maybe 5, though qualified, can be expected to choose a different group at prefs. If XYZ keeps all the remaining legacies, that would be 65/75 in its pledge class. We often hear "We can't take them all" or "The whole class would be legacies!"

I don't have a dog in the race, I'm just curious: why not have a class of mostly legacies, if they are qualified? Is it a sense that this would impair the diversity of the class? Are chapters worried about being perceived as exclusive and unfair (would that really be a bad thing at SEC U?)?

Same question, part 2: what if XYZ is a low-to-middle group at SEC U? Then does it make sense to take a mostly-legacy class?



LOL! Sorry, I just thought that was hilarious.

It's not that it's bad to have a pledge class of legacies, it's just that having only legacies probably leaves the actives with little say about who's in their chapter. There could have been 20 other girls at SEC U who would have been 'better fits' for the chapter. And

Originally Posted by dgdramadawg

She ended up really happy in the house she ended up pledging, but her mom was LIVID, and when she talked to her house they said that the PNM must have "slipped through the cracks." How a descendant of a founder could slip through the cracks is beyond me. Rest assured the same did not happen to this girl's younger siblings, though!

Code for "stay out of our membership selection, non-active chapter member."

[gee_ess]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

Code for "stay out of our membership selection, non-active chapter member."

And yet, truthfully, at large recruitments, there are important PNMs who do slip through the cracks. Sometimes, the alums didn't do their homework and let the actives know that an important legacy is coming through. And, often, these young women just aren't that aware of who the "big" alums are for their group.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by gee_ess

And yet, truthfully, at large recruitments, there are important PNMs who do slip through the cracks. Sometimes, the alums didn't do their homework and let the actives know that an important legacy is coming through. And, often, these young women just aren't that aware of who the "big" alums are for their group.

Sure, that's true, too. But I really dislike alums calling and asking about/yelling about/whining about/complaining about their legacy's recruitment.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

Sure, that's true, too. But I really dislike alums calling and asking about/yelling about/whining about/complaining about their legacy's recruitment.

I'm sorry, but I'm not a fan of this either.

I understand that said alumna feels hurt, but I've never seen this type of "why did my legacy get cut?" call go well.

Many times, the alumna unloads on whoever just happens to pick up the phone at the house.

Sometimes, it's just a random active who just happened to walk by the phone --and she gets a total earful from someone she has never met. lol.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

If she were an ASA legacy, this would not be an issue.

Nope! Just switch the lady bugs for panda bears!!