Rushing again

[kddani]

Originally Posted by epchick

Why do some GCers only post on GC to tell others how "mean" they are.

Hush, you shouldn't say that. You're an embarrassment to sororities everywhere!!!

[33girl]

angelove, I felt kind of that way with the chapter that won all the athletic competitions. I have 2 left feet. There HAVE been women on here who cut the "higher tier" chapter and explained it in a very nice way. No one has any beef with them. There have been girls who cut the "lower tier" chapter and explain it in a very nice way. No one (well, almost no one) has any beef with them.

It's the attitude that this one is giving that has pissed people off. She's at what is apparently a at least semi-competitive school with 5 groups - and she received invites back. I'm betting there were girls at her school that got cut from ALL the groups. She said rude things about the groups that she did cut and tried to make it sound not rude (which of course has the exact opposite effect). I'll also repeat that if she had become as BFF with these women in the sororities she wants that she thinks she has, they would have already said "are you rushing again once you come back from study abroad?" Oddly enough, she skipped right over that part of my post.

Originally Posted by 33girl

angelove, I felt kind of that way with the chapter that won all the athletic competitions. I have 2 left feet. There HAVE been women on here who cut the "higher tier" chapter and explained it in a very nice way. No one has any beef with them. There have been girls who cut the "lower tier" chapter and explain it in a very nice way. No one (well, almost no one) has any beef with them.

It's the attitude that this one is giving that has pissed people off. She's at what is apparently a at least semi-competitive school with 5 groups - and she received invites back. I'm betting there were girls at her school that got cut from ALL the groups. She said rude things about the groups that she did cut and tried to make it sound not rude (which of course has the exact opposite effect). I'll also repeat that if she had become as BFF with these women in the sororities she wants that she thinks she has, they would have already said "are you rushing again once you come back from study abroad?" Oddly enough, she skipped right over that part of my post.

People's minds are set that I am a rude person and I guess trying to state otherwise makes me seem even crueler so I can't even try.
But I am close to many girls in the sororities, most are my age though and have never actually gone through the process from the other side. School hasn't even started and I have not expressed to them that thought of me rushing. Who knows that if I say "hey I might rush again" they'll say "oh do you think thats a good idea? or "Oh yeah, totally do it!" I dont want to say anything to people until I know it is what i want to do. Girls were not cut from all groups (at least the ones I have talked to, i of course cannot say that I know for sure).

I'm sorry. I actually am, I don't want to be offensive to anyone and you are right, I don't know what goes on behind closed door and I don't know how the rush process of choosing a pledge class works.

I really don't want this post to be about me and how wrong and rude and stupid I am.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by I_Wish

(My school is very small and competitive because of how many girls rush and how many are accepted into the Sororities).

Originally Posted by I_Wish

Girls were not cut from all groups (at least the ones I have talked to, i of course cannot say that I know for sure).

These two things don't go together.

Originally Posted by 33girl

These two things don't go together.

Ok hears the deal: the ones I have talked to were not cut from all sororities but we always asked back to either ABC or XYZ or both (these are the two that I was invited back to) The other three are the competitive ones that drop many people, unfortunately.

and yeah, it is true, I need to watch how what I say online comes across...i really don't mean to be rude.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by I_Wish

People's minds are set that I am a rude person and I guess trying to state otherwise makes me seem even crueler so I can't even try.
But I am close to many girls in the sororities, most are my age though and have never actually gone through the process from the other side. School hasn't even started and I have not expressed to them that thought of me rushing. Who knows that if I say "hey I might rush again" they'll say "oh do you think thats a good idea? or "Oh yeah, totally do it!" I dont want to say anything to people until I know it is what i want to do. Girls were not cut from all groups (at least the ones I have talked to, i of course cannot say that I know for sure).

No, we think you said things that sounded rude. No one here has been cruel. It sounds like you're maybe starting to learn how what you say comes across to other people, particularly online. Remember, we're not people who know that you mean well, because we don't know you.
If you have friends in those groups, tell them you're thinking about it. There's nothing wrong with that, and even if they're new to being on the other side of recruitment, they can give you better feedback than we can.

[epchick]

Originally Posted by kddani

Hush, you shouldn't say that. You're an embarrassment to sororities everywhere!!!

I'm sorry