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Originally Posted by Drolefille
That's fine, i just think this was the wrong thread to make that stand in, particularly since you have actually made a thread on this topic.
And this OP was of the opinion (or expressed her opinion in such a way) that these groups were the latter. No matter what the truth is, such an opinion will limit her options. And particularly as a non-member she has no idea whether those groups just struggle for numbers and cut less, or whether they do take any and all comers.
If she (or any PNM) isn't happy with her options, that's ok. But I see little reason to encourage her to eliminate options in advance no matter what the reason. She wouldn't be the first PNM to have pre-conceived notions utterly shattered and find a home with a chapter she would never have thought would fit her.
Also, there has to be a balance between treating 18 year olds like kids and like adults. They're not always great at making decisions and can be more emotional, but they also can handle honesty and think critically.
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I like it when PNMs find a new home where they never would've expected one, although I believe it's often obvious when a group is taking anyone (when I rushed, there were 2 groups who invited all rushees back to every party; bad move on that campus).
I like it when teens can accept constructive criticism (do I sound like a teacher?) In the case of this particular girl, those 2 groups may well be her only options, although I have seen PNMs have a much more successful rush the second time than the first for various and sometimes unexplainable reasons.
I don't like it when adults jump on a hurting PNM, snarling at her because she cut some groups. As I said, we aren't looking over their shoulders.
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