Advice please.

flowerpower83 · #1 07-10-2010, 03:16 PM

You go Leslie Anne!! Your heart is in the right place Leilah but bringing up a topic like that is just awkward. I would have to remind myself that I liked you and think about the good stuff in you after hearing that. Don't get me wrong, my life isn't some perfect fairy tale but knowing so openly about your abuse is like baggage I don't need in the house. Some girls might not be familiar with domestic abuse and lean on the side of only a poor person or trashy person has that kind of life. I know that sounds really bad but I am being honest with very real feelings. Sometimes harsh truth makes people fickle. Just state to the girls how you are motivated to help women and children in abusive situations and maybe if you join you can speak as an advocate. I really hope people don't find my statement rude. I am speaking from the heart and when you go are trying to join the ideals of the perfect sorority girl is key. You know what I mean, the Grace Kelly image.

ThetaPrincess24 · #2 07-10-2010, 03:31 PM

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Originally Posted by flowerpower83

You go Leslie Anne!! Your heart is in the right place Leilah but bringing up a topic like that is just awkward. I would have to remind myself that I liked you and think about the good stuff in you after hearing that. Don't get me wrong, my life isn't some perfect fairy tale but knowing so openly about your abuse is like baggage I don't need in the house. Some girls might not be familiar with domestic abuse and lean on the side of only a poor person or trashy person has that kind of life. I know that sounds really bad but I am being honest with very real feelings. Sometimes harsh truth makes people fickle. Just state to the girls how you are motivated to help women and children in abusive situations and maybe if you join you can speak as an advocate. I really hope people don't find my statement rude. I am speaking from the heart and when you go are trying to join the ideals of the perfect sorority girl is key. You know what I mean, the Grace Kelly image.

Sorta off topic, but I would also like to add that if this is an issue that you are very passionate about, please dont let membership in another sorority or no sorority at all stop you from getting involved in the cause and becoming an advocate. Always remember that while different sororities have different philanthropies they choose to work with on a national level, most of our collegiate and alumnae members work with other charities and types of service as well.

For example, I'm a Kappa Alpha Theta. Our national philanthropy is CASA (Court Appointed Special Advocates). While I certainly support CASA, I also support other charities such as Ronald Mc Donald House, Komen Race for the Cure, Up All Night, St. Judes, and other religious & political groups.

IrishLake · #3 07-10-2010, 04:50 PM

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Originally Posted by flowerpower83

I am speaking from the heart and when you go are trying to join the ideals of the perfect sorority girl is key. You know what I mean, the Grace Kelly image.

Pretty sure Leslie Ann was not saying AT ALL what you are saying.

And.... I call bullshit. That is NOT what sororities are looking for when you go through recruitment. That is a stereotype, you know it, and anyone with a lick of sense knows what you're trying to say is complete BS.

sydney bristow · #4 07-10-2010, 05:00 PM

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Originally Posted by flowerpower83

You go Leslie Anne!! Your heart is in the right place Leilah but bringing up a topic like that is just awkward. I would have to remind myself that I liked you and think about the good stuff in you after hearing that. Don't get me wrong, my life isn't some perfect fairy tale but knowing so openly about your abuse is like baggage I don't need in the house. Some girls might not be familiar with domestic abuse and lean on the side of only a poor person or trashy person has that kind of life. I know that sounds really bad but I am being honest with very real feelings. Sometimes harsh truth makes people fickle. Just state to the girls how you are motivated to help women and children in abusive situations and maybe if you join you can speak as an advocate. I really hope people don't find my statement rude. I am speaking from the heart and when you go are trying to join the ideals of the perfect sorority girl is key. You know what I mean, the Grace Kelly image.

Oh hey sup perpberry.

Leslie Anne · #5 07-10-2010, 05:10 PM

Leilah3,
Please ignore flowerpot's comments. She/he/it is just a troll trying to cause problems on Greekchat. There is no such thing as a "perfect sorority girl" and you are just fine the way you are. Sorority life is for all types of women with all kinds of backgrounds and experiences.

dreamseeker · #6 07-10-2010, 05:56 PM

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Originally Posted by flowerpower83

Don't get me wrong, my life isn't some perfect fairy tale but knowing so openly about your abuse is like baggage I don't need in the house.

shut up, troll.

ree-Xi · #7 07-10-2010, 06:03 PM

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Originally Posted by flowerpower83

You go Leslie Anne!! Your heart is in the right place Leilah but bringing up a topic like that is just awkward. I would have to remind myself that I liked you and think about the good stuff in you after hearing that. Don't get me wrong, my life isn't some perfect fairy tale but knowing so openly about your abuse is like baggage I don't need in the house. Some girls might not be familiar with domestic abuse and lean on the side of only a poor person or trashy person has that kind of life. I know that sounds really bad but I am being honest with very real feelings. Sometimes harsh truth makes people fickle. Just state to the girls how you are motivated to help women and children in abusive situations and maybe if you join you can speak as an advocate. I really hope people don't find my statement rude. I am speaking from the heart and when you go are trying to join the ideals of the perfect sorority girl is key. You know what I mean, the Grace Kelly image.

Really? Sorry, honey, money does not preclude anyone from being either a victim or a perpetrator of domestic abuse. You do live in a fairy tale if you think this is even remotely true.

To the OP: you have been given some great advice. I do want to say that I'm sorry you have had to deal with D.V. in your life. No one deserves that.