After Several Years: What Do You Think of the New Release Figures?

[bu1904]

Originally Posted by LaneSig

/Pardon my lane swerve/

Is RMF working? If I am correct, the idea of RMF is to get girls interested in chapters that they normally wouldn't look at a second time. Isn't the idea to also help chapters that have traditionally been struggling with numbers and recruitment?

I had a conversation with a GC sorority member where I asked if RMF is helping with retention. On a couple of campuses (I won't mention them publically, pm me if you want specifics) it seems as if chapters that have traditionally not met quota are now meeting quota, but not retaining their pledges. In these situations, is RMF really helping the chapters?

Originally Posted by carnation

I have heard this about a lot of campuses. I'm wondering if girls are being pressured to stay in recruitment when they want to drop out. Maybe they're half-heartedly taking bids to join in the excitement, then dropping out soon afterwards? Maybe some Panhellenics are under pressure to see that everyone gets quota and they're leaning on the RCs.

It's so tough to be an 18-year-old PNM and not know if you should really take a shot at that bid or back off for another year. Every situation is different.

Oh--violetpretty, yes, several schools are seeing lots of no-shows who had accepted bids.

That is exactly what is happening. Rho Gamma's and Panhel are persuading
these girls to stick it out even though they got dropped by their "favorite" chapters early on. They go through the whole process and pressured not to suicide and on bid day they accept a bid from a chapter they didn't really want. Lots of these girls never really open up and give it a chance. Sometimes there is nothing really a chapter can do to make a girl want to stay. Especially when they see their friends are in the chapters they wanted to join. Surprisingly this past recruitment we had like 10 girls who had pledge chapters the year before go back through trying to get the chapter they didn't get the first time. 10 girls is a lot of my school which is fairly small.

Though it is unfortunate RFM doesn't have much to do with it. Truth is most of these flaky girls would have probably gotten cut from the top chapters anyway. The problem is with the types of girls in this generation.
Now I just graduated from college this year so these new girls are in my generation but I dont understand the way they think. I was a rho gam this past recruitment and I have noticed a lot of these girls feel entitled to receive bids to chapters they want. And these arent the girls that are legacies and have 3 or 4 recs, these are the girls that just decided they to go through yesterday cause all of their friends were doing it or registered for recruitment late even though they knew they want to rush before school even started. I dont know how many times we kept saying keep an open mind. My sorority wasnt my first choice or my second for that matter but I gave it a chance and it turned out to be the best group for me. Until girls learn to keep an open mind there will always be retention issues. Cause closed minded of girls never make good members.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by bu1904

That is exactly what is happening. Rho Gamma's and Panhel are persuading
these girls to stick it out even though they got dropped by their "favorite" chapters early on. They go through the whole process and pressured not to suicide and on bid day they accept a bid from a chapter they didn't really want. Lots of these girls never really open up and give it a chance. Sometimes there is nothing really a chapter can do to make a girl want to stay. Especially when they see their friends are in the chapters they wanted to join. Surprisingly this past recruitment we had like 10 girls who had pledge chapters the year before go back through trying to get the chapter they didn't get the first time. 10 girls is a lot of my school which is fairly small.

Though it is unfortunate RFM doesn't have much to do with it. Truth is most of these flaky girls would have probably gotten cut from the top chapters anyway. The problem is with the types of girls in this generation.
Now I just graduated from college this year so these new girls are in my generation but I dont understand the way they think. I was a rho gam this past recruitment and I have noticed a lot of these girls feel entitled to receive bids to chapters they want. And these arent the girls that are legacies and have 3 or 4 recs, these are the girls that just decided they to go through yesterday cause all of their friends were doing it or registered for recruitment late even though they knew they want to rush before school even started. I dont know how many times we kept saying keep an open mind. My sorority wasnt my first choice or my second for that matter but I gave it a chance and it turned out to be the best group for me. Until girls learn to keep an open mind there will always be retention issues. Cause closed minded of girls never make good members.

This is what I was getting at. The girls who drop because they can't let go of the fact that they were cut by their faves during recruitment, still dreaming about being in a "better" sorority, and missing out on the chapter that actually wanted them.

I was a Rho Gamma my senior year, and I told my group up front that I would really like it if everyone stuck it out through preference. I promised them I would not pressure them to rank a chapter they wouldn't join. They all listened to me!

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

This is what I was getting at. The girls who drop because they can't let go of the fact that they were cut by their faves during recruitment, still dreaming about being in a "better" sorority, and missing out on the chapter that actually wanted them.

I was a Rho Gamma my senior year, and I told my group up front that I would really like it if everyone stuck it out through preference. I promised them I would not pressure them to rank a chapter they wouldn't join. They all listened to me!

I think this is where we need to get with recruitment, because in the end, I don't really care if these self-absorbed girls don't get a bid. I care more that the chapters get strung along with a bunch a brats who will fill their spots and drop out later. It's not RFMs fault; it's the PNMs' fault and the Rho Chis' fault.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

This is what I was getting at. The girls who drop because they can't let go of the fact that they were cut by their faves during recruitment, still dreaming about being in a "better" sorority, and missing out on the chapter that actually wanted them.

I was a Rho Gamma my senior year, and I told my group up front that I would really like it if everyone stuck it out through preference. I promised them I would not pressure them to rank a chapter they wouldn't join. They all listened to me!

It sucks a little because we as alumnae have the benefit of hindsight.

We know that if you get that bid to that 2nd or 3rd choice, and you stick it out, chances are very good that you'll end up feeling at home there and being glad you accepted.

I always tell PNMs this:

I have never met a girl who looks back on her sorority experience after a few years and says "I wish I wouldn't have accepted."

However, if I had a dime for everytime I heard someone who declined a bid or depledged say "I wish I had tried it (or stuck it out)" I'd be rich.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by bu1904

Though it is unfortunate RFM doesn't have much to do with it. Truth is most of these flaky girls would have probably gotten cut from the top chapters anyway. The problem is with the types of girls in this generation.
Now I just graduated from college this year so these new girls are in my generation but I dont understand the way they think. I was a rho gam this past recruitment and I have noticed a lot of these girls feel entitled to receive bids to chapters they want. And these arent the girls that are legacies and have 3 or 4 recs, these are the girls that just decided they to go through yesterday cause all of their friends were doing it or registered for recruitment late even though they knew they want to rush before school even started. I dont know how many times we kept saying keep an open mind. My sorority wasnt my first choice or my second for that matter but I gave it a chance and it turned out to be the best group for me. Until girls learn to keep an open mind there will always be retention issues. Cause closed minded of girls never make good members.

Yup. I was going to say RFM is working well at schools where the girls don't have their heads up their asses, but this is a nicer way of putting it.

The kind of girls bu1904 is talking about just can't deal with the fact that they've gone from being Miss Everything of their high school (oftentimes with very little effort) to, in their minds, failing. This is another reason I think deferred rush is better. You learn that lesson a bit more slowly over a semester, rather than getting gobsmacked with it before you've even taken a college class. And on the other side, the girls who WEREN'T a big deal in HS get a chance to reinvent themselves. Everybody wins.