Dumpee or Dumper. Which is better?

DrPhil · #1 06-21-2010, 10:42 AM

Letters are for losers unless you're writing the letter AND having the face to face discussion.

33girl · #2 06-21-2010, 10:44 AM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

Letters are for losers unless you're writing the letter AND having the face to face discussion.

If the other person doesn't let you say what you want to say, and is borderline emotionally abusive, sometimes it's the only way to do it.

DrPhil · #3 06-21-2010, 11:03 AM

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If the other person doesn't let you say what you want to say, and is borderline emotionally abusive, sometimes it's the only way to do it.

Borderline? What's that.

The biggest lessons in life come from being assertive and learning how to start and STOP something head on. Ponies don't piss rainbows regardless of whether we're talking about Greekdom or other aspects of life.

Drolefille · #4 06-21-2010, 11:16 AM

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Borderline? What's that.

The biggest lessons in life come from being assertive and learning how to start and STOP something head on. Ponies don't piss rainbows regardless of whether we're talking about Greekdom or other aspects of life.

Ideal =/= reality.

DrPhil · #5 06-21-2010, 11:19 AM

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Ideal =/= reality.

Life isn't as complicated as people insist on making it.

Drolefille · #6 06-21-2010, 11:26 AM

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Life isn't as complicated as people insist on making it.

Not always, but we do a lot of things for our safety and writing a letter is active rather than the passive "make her dump me" bullshit.

33girl · #7 06-21-2010, 11:54 AM

You have to realize I'm talking about this from the perspective of a 19 year old with her first serious boyfriend. Anytime I mentioned even staying together but also seeing other people, he made me feel guilty and like he might harm himself. I tried the "make him dump me" tactic and way overestimated the amount of male pride he had. Suffice it to say that I almost got to a point where I didn't think there was a way out of it.

Nowadays, of course, I'm a much bigger bitch and would say "if you off yourself, that's really not my problem."