First signs of a bad first date

[Prettyface08]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

...a wet mouth?

hehehe



*scribbles* Prettyface08 is an expensive date who doesn't kiss.

Sounds about right LOL

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by Prettyface08

Sounds about right LOL

if you don't kiss me by the 3rd date or at least cop a feel, we are th'ough.

[Prettyface08]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

if you don't kiss me by the 3rd date or at least cop a feel, we are th'ough.

That's fine. I was only using you for the expensive dinners anyway!

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by Prettyface08

That's fine. I was only using you for the expensive dinners anyway!

golddigger.

LOL

[Prettyface08]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

golddigger.

LOL

I'm not saying I'm a golddigger, BUT.... LOL

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

LOL. Leave cheerfulgreek alone. This thread is all about the subjective "signs of a bad date." I could critique what a lot of people typed if I felt like it.

Plus, we already know how she feels about certain things. LOL.

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I had a convo with a friend about the usefulness of an actual philosophy major/degree the other day. I said that philosophy is a component of many schools of thoughts/majors/degrees/fields/careers and I feel like philosophy should be the beginning of a discussion and not the end [philosophy---->philosophy]. I have philosophical discussions all the time but I did not know whether literally being a philosopher had great utility. That was my simplistic way of thinking (I was tie-red) and what I said can be and has been said for a number of fields, though. I would never be disrespectful toward someone with a bachelor's or graduate degree in philosophy. It is awesome in its own right and has utility. Like I said, philosophy's a component of many schools of thought and fields of expertise---even *gasp* some of the things that cheerfulgreek chooses to be interested in.
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Well, this is true, DrPhil, it's just that in a partner, all I want is to feel financially secure. I mean, it's just that fast food places don't pay enough to even live off of, and I'm not saying that someone with a philosophy degree is a bad person, or anything, it's just that I've never met anyone with that kind of degree that has a decent, well paying career. I mean, I know there are some out there, I just haven't met any. All I'm saying is that I've always wanted a guy who I can build a future with, someone I can depend on. It's just that I can't see how a guy working a fast food job can give me that sense of security. That's all I'm saying.

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

But it's not about her hobbies, for me, it's about seeing if she is a person that I would like spending time with if there were no romance at all. To me, that is the one true measure of a friend, a person with whom I like to spend time, having no regard to how we are spending it,--her hobbies or mine. Doesn't matter. The way I see it, I would want my best friends to be honest, faithful, spiritual, responsible, connecting, loving etc. So, those qualities also need to be present in her, too.

Originally Posted by Prettyface08

LOL!! umm, how do I explain it, Hmmm. Have you ever known anyone whose mouth always seemed to have a little puddle around the bottom lip? It's kind of like drool but doesn't dribble down the chin just stays around the lip. Example: Diddy looks like he has a wet mouth. OR if the corners of their mouth is always wet, I can't do it. I can't kiss someone with all that excess saliva. Swallow sometimes! UGH lol

lol
Ewwwww! That is SO gross. I've never seen that before. However, I've seen guys with that white stuff in the corners of their mouth. Like, when they talk, it moves up and down, but never breaks apart. Ya know what I mean? I looks like mayonnaise. It's SO disgusting and it makes me gag. Yuck! Have you ever seen that, before?

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

...it's just that I've never met anyone with that kind of degree that has a decent, well paying career. I mean, I know there are some out there, I just haven't met any.

Then instead of being judgmental and slamming the degree, open your mind and see what he's doing with his degree. The same as you would expect from a man who thinks your degree and line of work (and overall interests) sound like a ridiculous waste of time. As you probably know, there are people with philosophy degrees who make more than you may ever earn and that's because most majors and degree fields include a range of careers and jobs.

Plus, you're most likely thinking of a B.A in philosophy--which isn't a total waste, either. But, I don't think in terms of college majors. I think in terms of masters, doctorates, juris doctorates, and so forth. People don't pursue those with the expectation to pontificate as to whether the customer wants their chicken fried or grilled.

All in all, when it comes to dating and sustaining relationships, don't be that which you despise and give what you expect to get.

[phitheta376]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Well, this is true, DrPhil, it's just that in a partner, all I want is to feel financially secure. I mean, it's just that fast food places don't pay enough to even live off of, and I'm not saying that someone with a philosophy degree is a bad person, or anything, it's just that I've never met anyone with that kind of degree that has a decent, well paying career. I mean, I know there are some out there, I just haven't met any. All I'm saying is that I've always wanted a guy who I can build a future with, someone I can depend on. It's just that I can't see how a guy working a fast food job can give me that sense of security. That's all I'm saying.

I thought that you might find this little tidbit from my school's Philosophy Department's interesting...

http://www.uncg.edu/phi/Revisions%20...osophy.html#_3

The fact is that in the modern economy, virtually no one can hack it just by holding a four year degree. This applies doubly so to those who hold degrees in the liberal arts. However, if you possess the traits that typically come with the attainment of a degree like that -- the abilities to quickly synthesize, interpret, communicate, and critically think -- then you're almost destined to make money anywhere.

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by Prettyface08

YES! I had a guy that I liked hurt my feelings doing this. He told me that I was acting White and the activities that I liked were those that "White people liked to do." The fool then told me that he would refer to me as "Crystal" from that point forward. I told him to enjoy his hobbies/interests alone. That's so rude. Ugh.

Wow, that guy deserves to be alone.

I've dated guys who would lie to me about their interest in my interests/hobbies, too. I dunno, it's just that a lot of guys that I would go out with would tell me what they thought I wanted to hear, just so I would keep dating them. They would act like they really were interested in my hobbies, when they really weren't. And they didn't have to be, but I just think that if I'm showing or taking some interest in what he enjoys, he should do the same for me, even if it's just a little, and the last thing is please don't tell me what he thinks I want to hear.

Originally Posted by Prettyface08

*If he consumes too many alcoholic beverages
*If he stares at another woman (or man) while with me.
*If we're at dinner and he starts complaining about the prices on the menu.
*If he says he doesn't have any friends, or only has female friends OR he believes that men and women can't be friends
*If he tells sexual jokes or talks about sex at all.
*This may be weird BUT, if he refers to me as sexy instead of saying you look nice/cute/beautiful.
*If he's cheap...expecially with himself!
*If he tries to kiss me.
*If he has a wet mouth.

lol
What do you mean by wet mouth? That's hilarious. What is that?

eta: and I totally agree about the alcohol. I don't like a lot of swearing, either.

[Prettyface08]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Wow, that guy deserves to be alone.

I've dated guys who would lie to me about their interest in my interests/hobbies, too. I dunno, it's just that a lot of guys that I would go out with would tell me what they thought I wanted to hear, just so I would keep dating them. They would act like they really were interested in my hobbies, when they really weren't. And they didn't have to be, but I just think that if I'm showing or taking some interest in what he enjoys, he should do the same for me, even if it's just a little, and the last thing is please don't tell me what he thinks I want to hear.


lol
What do you mean by wet mouth? That's hilarious. What is that?

eta: and I totally agree about the alcohol. I don't like a lot of swearing, either.

LOL!! umm, how do I explain it, Hmmm. Have you ever known anyone whose mouth always seemed to have a little puddle around the bottom lip? It's kind of like drool but doesn't dribble down the chin just stays around the lip. Example: Diddy looks like he has a wet mouth. OR if the corners of their mouth is always wet, I can't do it. I can't kiss someone with all that excess saliva. Swallow sometimes! UGH lol

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

if you don't kiss me by the 3rd date or at least cop a feel, we are th'ough.

[lAZy 1]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

lol

I don't know why, but if his car is junky, we're done. And yes, no kids, just to start. Or if he talks about himself a lot.

Oh, and as for his appearance, I don't really like earrings, nose rings etc...and/or tattoos.

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

When I date, I'm generally looking for a partner so if he talks about his previous "relationships" and none of them are real relationships, just short term "ins and outs"..

or the "career goal" conversation starts out like "Well, right now I'm working at Taco Bell, but I'm in school studying philosophy blah blah..."

Philosophy? Really?

or if the job before the Taco Hell one is pretty consistent with the current job, like Burger Slinger, Scrubway, etc. Basically he's not going anywhere, or really doesn't want to go anywhere.

Doesn't take my hobbies into consideration meaning he only likes talking about the things he enjoys doing and doesn't have or take an interest in my hobbies. I mean, I know my interests and hobbies are a little out there, but still...

Talks about his exes. Has a lot of exes etc...still friends with his exes...etc.

no second date, not with me.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jI6YWeiHEiE