Switching from a Local Sorority to a National One

[mkprncss]

Originally Posted by 33girl

If the local is a full member of Panhel, you should not rush a new sorority.

As I stated before, it would be a total diss/invalidation of your previous sorority, and unless the local is a total and complete joke and no one on campus respects them, any NPC that takes you is not going to be looked at kindly either. "Wow...XYZ must be in trouble...they're taking the local's leftovers."

Seriously, I would not have any respect for a chapter that did this. You would have to be super incredible awesome to infinity (or, as I said, the local would have to be a complete joke on the verge of dying out, and even then people might have pity on them) for a chapter to take on the burdens that might come with bidding you.

Do you say this coming from a campus that's much larger than mine? Just curious.

I feel that ours is small enough that nearly everyone knows why I left the local. If not everyone knows then it would certainly spread when someone saw I wanted to rush again.

Would anyone else feel the way 33girl feels about all this?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by mkprncss

Do you say this coming from a campus that's much larger than mine? Just curious.

I feel that ours is small enough that nearly everyone knows why I left the local. If not everyone knows then it would certainly spread when someone saw I wanted to rush again.


Would anyone else feel the way 33girl feels about all this?

I say this coming from a campus that had 7 sororities, about 50 people each. There appear to be things you aren't telling us (to conceal your identity, which I totally understand) that you think would validate your decision in the eyes of the campus. My outlook is, if the local is SO bad that this kind of thing would be accepted, I'm frankly surprised there hasn't been an outcry to shut them down or at least kick them out of Panhel.

I really think you're overestimating how much these girls in the other group (and the Greek system in general) dig you. I also think you're overestimating that lots of philanthropy $$ = awesome sorority.

[mkprncss]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I say this coming from a campus that had 7 sororities, about 50 people each. There appear to be things you aren't telling us (to conceal your identity, which I totally understand) that you think would validate your decision in the eyes of the campus. My outlook is, if the local is SO bad that this kind of thing would be accepted, I'm frankly surprised there hasn't been an outcry to shut them down or at least kick them out of Panhel.

I really think you're overestimating how much these girls in the other group (and the Greek system in general) dig you. I also think you're overestimating that lots of philanthropy $$ = awesome sorority.

I'd hope that because they know I've already been in a sorority that they would discuss this within their boards before extending or not extending a bid to me.

[33girl]

You know them. You're friendly with them. They have sympathy that your Greek experience didn't turn out well. That doesn't mean they want you to be their sister.

And I don't know how anyone else's sorority works, but I know that in my group more than the exec board votes on who gets a bid.

[mkprncss]

Originally Posted by 33girl

You know them. You're friendly with them. They have sympathy that your Greek experience didn't turn out well. That doesn't mean they want you to be their sister.

And I don't know how anyone else's sorority works, but I know that in my group more than the exec board votes on who gets a bid.

Yes, what I was getting at is that my reasoning would be spread and nearly all members would know. You said I'm probably not as well known as I think I am. Just saying that the exec would have to give reason to the entire sorority when they vote.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by mkprncss

You said I'm probably not as well known as I think I am. Just saying that the exec would have to give reason to the entire sorority when they vote.

Noooooooooooo, that is not what I said. I said they probably don't love you as much as you think they do to go out on a limb for you. I'm pretty sure you ARE well known at this point. Actually "notorious" might be a better word for the situation.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Noooooooooooo, that is not what I said. I said they probably don't love you as much as you think they do to go out on a limb for you. I'm pretty sure you ARE well known at this point. Actually "notorious" might be a better word for the situation.

This.

They could like you. They might genuinely think "Man I feel really bad for mkprncss and what happened with the local." They may even enjoy having you around and inviting you to chapter dinner. That doesn't mean they want their sorority to be the one who went out on a limb to give you a bid (for whatever reason).

Obviously you want to try, so good luck, but I am just pointing out that like doesn't always = bid.