Rush - What to NOT do or say

[33girl]

Originally Posted by lilb

I just said that I was involved on campus in a few activities and it seemed like some of the houses didn't think I would have time to be in a sorority. How do I show that I am involved on campus but that I am also really wanting to be a part of their sorority?

Unless you said "I spend every night at the newspaper office" or "I have practice for basketball 3 times a day" a sorority who would cut you for that is idiotic. Most sororities ENCOURAGE or even COMPEL their members to be in other extracurricular activities.

[Ooh La La]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Unless you said "I spend every night at the newspaper office" or "I have practice for basketball 3 times a day" a sorority who would cut you for that is idiotic. Most sororities ENCOURAGE or even COMPEL their members to be in other extracurricular activities.

I don't know about other sororities, but in my chapter it's actually REQUIRED that you have at least two extracurriculars as a new member and at least one once you're initiated.

[lyrelyre]

Originally Posted by MUSK81

I'm really enjoying this thread - it has a lot of good advice for PNMs. But if I could give collegians some advice ...
I know some of the PNMs sometimes talk out of turn or come off like they're too stupid to live, but please, try not to judge them too harshly at first. Most of them are just 18 and away from home for the first time and aren't as poised and confident as they like to think they are. Many girls, like the ones at my school, are first generation college students who know little of Greek life or have friends or relatives to guide them. A girl may run her mouth too much from nerves, wear too much eyeliner or whatever, but unless she's wildly inappropriate, give her at least a second chance. She may be more poised the second time around and allow you to see her as a potential sister. If not, well, that's what second cuts are for. But a little consideration can go a long way and help your chapter gain some really great girls they might not have gotten otherwise.

This can be one of the frustrations with RFM. I know that my chapter is required to release nearly half of the PNMs after the first round. Every year, I know that we are releasing young ladies that would make fabulous new members based on first impressions. However, that’s why educating these young women is important. In recruitment especially, you really may never get a “second chance to make a first impression.”