Rush - What to NOT do or say

[MUSK81]

I'm really enjoying this thread - it has a lot of good advice for PNMs. But if I could give collegians some advice ...
I know some of the PNMs sometimes talk out of turn or come off like they're too stupid to live, but please, try not to judge them too harshly at first. Most of them are just 18 and away from home for the first time and aren't as poised and confident as they like to think they are. Many girls, like the ones at my school, are first generation college students who know little of Greek life or have friends or relatives to guide them. A girl may run her mouth too much from nerves, wear too much eyeliner or whatever, but unless she's wildly inappropriate, give her at least a second chance. She may be more poised the second time around and allow you to see her as a potential sister. If not, well, that's what second cuts are for. But a little consideration can go a long way and help your chapter gain some really great girls they might not have gotten otherwise.

[ASUADPi]

Originally Posted by MUSK81

I'm really enjoying this thread - it has a lot of good advice for PNMs. But if I could give collegians some advice ...
I know some of the PNMs sometimes talk out of turn or come off like they're too stupid to live, but please, try not to judge them too harshly at first. Most of them are just 18 and away from home for the first time and aren't as poised and confident as they like to think they are. Many girls, like the ones at my school, are first generation college students who know little of Greek life or have friends or relatives to guide them. A girl may run her mouth too much from nerves, wear too much eyeliner or whatever, but unless she's wildly inappropriate, give her at least a second chance. She may be more poised the second time around and allow you to see her as a potential sister. If not, well, that's what second cuts are for. But a little consideration can go a long way and help your chapter gain some really great girls they might not have gotten otherwise.

This is wonderful advice.


It's like the old saying "Don't judge a book by it's cover". That applies to both PNM's and to the actives.

[MUSK81]

OK, what exactly is RFM? I've seen it on other threads and was wondering. It must be something relatively new - in my day we still had "coke dates" where members would meet one-on-one with PNMs for coffee, a soda or whatever. Nowadays, that's considered dirty rushing at most schools.

[AZ-AlphaXi]

Originally Posted by MUSK81

OK, what exactly is RFM? I've seen it on other threads and was wondering. It must be something relatively new - in my day we still had "coke dates" where members would meet one-on-one with PNMs for coffee, a soda or whatever. Nowadays, that's considered dirty rushing at most schools.

RFM stands for "release figures method". its the new method from NPC for
determining the number of PNMs that a chapter must release or fliping it .. the maximum number of PNMs that a chapter can invite for a specified round of formal recruitment.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by MUSK81

OK, what exactly is RFM? I've seen it on other threads and was wondering. It must be something relatively new - in my day we still had "coke dates" where members would meet one-on-one with PNMs for coffee, a soda or whatever. Nowadays, that's considered dirty rushing at most schools.

If the school has deferred rush, this wouldn't be considered dirty rushing. If it is, the school is using the concept of deferred rush incorrectly. The only time things like that should be "illegal" at a DR school is while rush itself is going on.

[MUSK81]

Actually, it did go on during rush ... after the open houses on Sunday, we all hurried home to our phones (land lines!) to await calls from sororities for coke dates. It was good in a way for the PNMs because it helped you guage which groups were interested in you, but it was hell on chapters, especially small ones, because it added one more thing to an already hectic week. Anyway, they did away with it when I was a senior and I've never heard of any other schools doing it since.