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Originally Posted by JohnnyCash
(I've been kind of ghost lately from GC with school and all but I got to thinking recently and searched the topic but found no threads.)
Lately I've been feeling differently about my organization. I'm proud to be a brother of my fraternity and honestly think it's one of the best chapters on my campus, but I'm reaching my 3 years and things feel very much different (no shit, I know- but still).
I used to be very internally involved and found it to be very rewarding, but I no longer am and now I'm very externally involved on campus- you can say I'm one of the "face" guys in my fraternity. I guess this caused me to drift away from my chapter and the guys I used to consider my best friends.
I feel like the vast majority of the friendships with my brothers are very casual and superficial. Don't get my wrong, I spend a good amount of time with my brothers doing the usual- drinking, eating, hanging out, partying, etc.
But I feel like there are no guys that I can really sit down and have a meaningful conversation with. Most of my interaction with brothers consists of casual conversations and often never goes past the "how was your day?" type of small talk.
I was wondering how many of you have experienced that or experienced that as an undergraduate.
Do you feel like Greek life is composed of primarily casual and superficial friendships or can you really find your lifelong best friends being Greek??
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Friendships in GLOs are no different than friendships in real life - you have to put in work for them to be successful.
If you don't speak to people regularly, they may not feel comfortable having deeper conversations with you. If you want more out of your brothers, interact with them more.
When I was an undergrad, I was one of the "face of the fraternity" brothers (super involved on campus), but I made sure to leave time to interact with my brothers. Of course, I wasn't best friend's with everyone, but I spent enough time with enough brothers so that I could say more than "Sup?" when I saw them.
Are there ANY brothers that you can have meaningful conversations with? Pledge brothers? Big brother?
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