Dating and finances

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Originally Posted by DaemonSeid

I was on an show last night that discussed this and thought I would put this age old question out to the group:


In these economical times, how feasible is it to cling to the age old belief that the 'man should pay for everything' on the first (or any) date?

Should anyone have to 'pay for everything' on a date?

When and why?

When is a good time to decide on finances when dating someone?

I have two brothers. I was not raised with the "I should be treated like a queen because that's what I am" fallacy being drilled into my head. My parents taught me a good relationship should consist of two people who offer each other respect, kindness, and compassion. One shouldn't be treated better than the other. I think the party that invites the other on the date should pay. If I ask a guy on a date (which I haven't done yet, but I would if the situation arose) I should pay. If he asks me, he should. But when I have a boyfriend we always split. I'll buy the tickets to the movie and he buys the refreshments or vice versa, for example. That way it all evens out in the end. A guy can't be expected to be in a relationship and finance every activity. I always tell a guy when they offer that I appreciate it, but I would like to contribute, too. I've never had a refusal on that offer. Recession or no, it's always polite to offer.