As an interest, should I keep my relationship with a member of a D9 org a secret?

[BluPhire]

I hope the OP is listening to you all...because you all are right. I will even one up it, the fact that he said don't say anything until afterwards means there is a chick in the chapter right now that he is kicking it with and he has convinced her crazy self that ya'll are "jess frenz". Trust from somebody in the frat. We've had plenty of girlfriends that went on to be AKA's, Delta's, Zeta's, SGRhos with no problem. It only becomes a problem if you don't know your position. (Translation...you think you the girlfriend but reality you the mistress....and you about to pledge my Girlfriends chapter.) Do these words sound familiar when you first told him you wanted to pledge Delta? "Girl why would you wanna pledge them?"

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by BluPhire

I hope the OP is listening to you all...because you all are right. I will even one up it, the fact that he said don't say anything until afterwards means there is a chick in the chapter right now that he is kicking it with and he has convinced her crazy self that ya'll are "jess frenz". Trust from somebody in the frat. We've had plenty of girlfriends that went on to be AKA's, Delta's, Zeta's, SGRhos with no problem. It only becomes a problem if you don't know your position. (Translation...you think you the girlfriend but reality you the mistress....and you about to pledge my Girlfriends chapter.) Do these words sound familiar when you first told him you wanted to pledge Delta? "Girl why would you wanna pledge them?"

And this is even moreso the case if she is in a nonsexual serious relationship with him (which is possible). He's either getting it from her or elsewhere. You don't convert the campus frat manwhore while he's on a campus filled with fellow pimps and pimpettes.