As an interest, should I keep my relationship with a member of a D9 org a secret?

[naturalveil]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

You're nothing more than his "jump off." He's having sex with other people. He doesn't want a public relationship because he wants to keep doing what he's doing. He is probably the campus frat manwhore.

This has absolutely nothing to do with membership in an organization.

ETA: The Deltas (do NOT call them "sorors"--your self-professed boyfriend should've told you that) may or may not be bothered that you're having sex with someone a few of them had sex with. That's only if they want him like that and care enough for it to impact your membership chances. They certainly aren't the only sorority and nonsorority women who have had sex with him on campus. But, it is probably moreso that you THINK the campus frat manwhore who is making you paranoid about outing your relationship is actually your boyfriend. That is laughable.

There really wasn't any need for the nastiness in your message...if that was a result of me using "sorors", sorry for the misterminology. I felt repetitive saying "the Deltas" over and over again, I meant it as a reference to them as sisters to each other, not MY sisters (I know they are not). I think you made a lot of assumptions and passed judgment unnecessarily (for example, I don't remember saying he and I are having sex, and referring to me as his "jumpoff" and him as a manwhore? that's a big leap for a stranger to make.) All you really had to say was they may or may not be bothered by it, since that's what I was asking. But uh, thanks.

[Gusteau]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

You're nothing more than his "jump off." He's having sex with other people. He doesn't want a public relationship because he wants to keep doing what he's doing. He is probably the campus frat manwhore.

This has absolutely nothing to do with membership in an organization.

I was reading this thinking, "I know NPHC is different...but it sounds like he's playing her." Thanks for the confirmation.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by Gusteau

I was reading this thinking, "I know NPHC is different...but it sounds like he's playing her." Thanks for the confirmation.

NPHC isn't different when it comes to a man telling a woman it may be in her best interest to keep their relationship secret.

The OP is an idiot who still thinks this is about sorority membership. If "they may or may not be bothered by it" is what her mind wanted to hear then...sure.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by naturalveil

I am an idiot in a secret relationship with the campus frat manwhore.

Shut up, fool.

[DaemonSeid]

Originally Posted by DrPhil

Shut up, fool.

[NiaX]

Originally Posted by naturalveil

There really wasn't any need for the nastiness in your message...if that was a result of me using "sorors", sorry for the misterminology. I felt repetitive saying "the Deltas" over and over again, I meant it as a reference to them as sisters to each other, not MY sisters (I know they are not). I think you made a lot of assumptions and passed judgment unnecessarily (for example, I don't remember saying he and I are having sex, and referring to me as his "jumpoff" and him as a manwhore? that's a big leap for a stranger to make.) All you really had to say was they may or may not be bothered by it, since that's what I was asking. But uh, thanks.

To answer the original question... there isn't any qualms/issue to being in a relationship with a guy that is in a D9 frat.

To answer this post... defensive much?

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by naturalveil

There really wasn't any need for the nastiness in your message...if that was a result of me using "sorors", sorry for the misterminology. I felt repetitive saying "the Deltas" over and over again, I meant it as a reference to them as sisters to each other, not MY sisters (I know they are not). I think you made a lot of assumptions and passed judgment unnecessarily (for example, I don't remember saying he and I are having sex, and referring to me as his "jumpoff" and him as a manwhore? that's a big leap for a stranger to make.) All you really had to say was they may or may not be bothered by it, since that's what I was asking. But uh, thanks.

So now you know not to use the term soror--a lesson learned.

But you have a bigger one to learn. Maybe if you had read your own post you would have seen how it would come across to others. It screams of implications that led to easily made assumptions. For example--serious relationship. Since you didn't indicate anywhere in your post that you are super religious the assumption would be that sex is involved.

Second, a man who has casual sex is called a manwhore. Simple as that.

Third, you came on a public messgae board of strangers and tell us TMI. Then you wonder why the reaction is such. Your need to expound about the relationship was unncessary. All you had to say ask was is it better to keep a relationship with a D9 member secret if you are an interest? However, your justification of the relationship shows that deep down you know something isn't right. And your reaction to others saying it speaks volumes.

Finally, insulting a member of the org to which you belong is never a good thing. The D9 world is too small.

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

Finally, insulting a member of the org to which you belong is never a good thing. The D9 world is too small.

Luckily for her I'm not easily insulted and feel sorry for her more than anything else. Either way, I wouldn't care so much as to try to ruin her (perhaps already slim) chances.

[IlovemyAKA]

Oh wow. I hadn't even made it here yet. The Deltas on that campus are dodging a bullet. She'll be her own downfall if she hasn't succeeded at that already.

Originally Posted by naturalveil

There really wasn't any need for the nastiness in your message...if that was a result of me using "sorors", sorry for the misterminology. I felt repetitive saying "the Deltas" over and over again, I meant it as a reference to them as sisters to each other, not MY sisters (I know they are not). I think you made a lot of assumptions and passed judgment unnecessarily (for example, I don't remember saying he and I are having sex, and referring to me as his "jumpoff" and him as a manwhore? that's a big leap for a stranger to make.) All you really had to say was they may or may not be bothered by it, since that's what I was asking. But uh, thanks.

[xp2k]

To quote the famous Chris Rock's "No Sex in the Champagne Room":

"If you've been dating a man for four months and you haven't met any of his friends, you are NOT his girlfriend!"

[DIVA1177]

Sensuret--*dead* Those pics are going to keep me laughing ALL DAY.