Big/Little Opinion Please?

[chickenoodle]

I appreciate what RaggedyAnn and AOIIAngel are saying but I disagree. I would try a last ditch effort before letting it go.

Grab your Big and ask to get together (lunch, etc.) and talk to her. She may feel as though you blew her off even though it doesn't sound like that is the case.

If it doesn't work out, it would be unfortunate, but it's not the end of the world. Just remember your experiences when the time comes for you to take a Little.

[MaggieXi]

I had a really great time with my Big when I first joined the chapter.

However, the circle of friends within the sorority that she hung out with and the circle of friends that I ended up being with mostly were just very different. She and I didn't have a huge falling out - but by the end of my sophmore year we only saw each other at mandatory events and were cordial - just not close. I often envied the girls who had bigs that they adored and were best friends with.

My junior year, I ended up being close to someone else in my big's pledge class and she kind of became my psuedo-big, because her little had transferred. We were very good friends and she and I fulfilled those rolls for each other.

So what I'm getting at is: your big might be your big on paper, but that doesn't mean she has to be that roll in your life. I would reach out to her and try - but if it doesn't work and you think that you can't handle the fact that she has taken another little (but at least she told you about that, which is good that she respects you enough to be honest) try to work on relationships with others you think can be good friends with.

Also, when you get your little, remember and teach her that this relationship is a 2 way street.

And hey - your getting a twin! You should be excited and do everything you can to develop that friendship!