Please Help! I just have questions...

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Originally Posted by vanityfair5

A NOT hypothetical situation, but I'll use cheesy Greek code to explain what is going on here:

I attend Cyprus Rhodes University and just went through Formal Recruitment. At the end of Pref Night I listed my choices putting ZBZ first, Tri Pi second, and IKI third. I was fairly certain I would get a bid from ZBZ the next morning, as both girls I talked to said "they could really see me there." But, I got a bid from Tri Pi.
Of course I was upset but I went to the Bid Day party. And I really didn't like it. I didn't fit in with my Pledge Class and I was SO not excited to go back for my first new member meeting. I decided to give it a week, so I did, and I still don't like it very much. It's just not the place for me. But I know that ZBZ is!
I have my Pledging-In ceremony THIS Friday and of course want to make my decision to drop out or not before then. I don't know what to do! I can't imagine NOT being Greek after I have wanted to for so long, but I definitely know this is not the place for me to do so.
I also know that after signing my Preference List I am bound to a sorority for a full year before I can rush again. BUT, one of the sororities on my Pref Night list was all it said. So does ZBZ technically count? They have snapped maybe like 1 or 2 girls since Bid Day in...could I work my way in w/o getting in trouble with NPC? I am DESPERATE here, let me know any loopholes I can work with! (And suggestions on how to get snapped in/ informally be recruited in--since that is going on right now!)

THANK YOUUUUU!

Boo-Hoo, I didn't get my TOP choice! Geez, what is with all these girls coming on here and crying about not getting their top choice. You say that you have wanted to be Greek for so long, but you just don't feel like you "love" these girls. In reality, you are just saying that you feel you are too good for them. Let us call a spade a spade. I'm not convinced that you just "don't click" with these girls. You accepted a bid. The girls are doing what they can to get to know you. Instead, you go crying in a chat room about not being in your 1st choice.

Many women (and men) on here didn't get their first choice and some people didn't get a bid AT ALL. There are girls out there who would kill for your spot. Stop wasting your sorority's time and either quit (opening up a spot for another DESERVING girl) or suck it up and make it the best you know how.

There are girls, every year, who go bidless. Consider yourself blessed that you were chosen. You sound like a spoiled brat from that Sweet 16 show: Boo-hoo, I wanted a BMW, but I got a VW instead.

These "sisters" of yours don't deserve to be thrown aside because they may not be the "popular" or the "top tier" chapter on your campus. This chapter that you are in may be the bottom on your campus, but I guarantee they are someone else's top choice at another campus. You get no sympathy from me.