Missing a pref due to conflict

[karmelgirl]

Any Rho Chi's or those in the know on recruitment? I could use your advise. My D is going through formal recruitment this week and has a terrifle schedule conflict with prefs. She is in a theater group and call backs overlap prefs. The theater group will allow her to leave early, but she will still miss the first of 3 prefs. She has reported this conflict to her Rho Chi. What will the impact of this be? I can't imagine a house putting anyone high on their list if they missed prefs. Your thoughts? Do you know if any other situations where this has happened? What is your advice?

[Psi U MC Vito]

Originally Posted by karmelgirl

Your thoughts? Do you know if any other situations where this has happened? What is your advice?

My advice? Your daughter is an adult. She already talked to her RX, so all she can do now is continue. Asking strangers for advice on the internet isn't going to help her any.

/lane swerve

[twinkle555]

Originally Posted by karmelgirl

Any Rho Chi's or those in the know on recruitment? I could use your advise. My D is going through formal recruitment this week and has a terrifle schedule conflict with prefs. She is in a theater group and call backs overlap prefs. The theater group will allow her to leave early, but she will still miss the first of 3 prefs. She has reported this conflict to her Rho Chi. What will the impact of this be? I can't imagine a house putting anyone high on their list if they missed prefs. Your thoughts? Do you know if any other situations where this has happened? What is your advice?

She has already done all that she can by letting her Rho Chi know. No one, not even her Rho Chi, can tell her what the consequences are b/c honestly no one knows. Maybe your daughter can let the sororities subtly know that she is going to miss most of that day? (like if her theater group activity comes up she could say "Yeah I love it..I actually have so and so/blah blah tomorrow so I will have to miss part of Pref Round and I'm so sad about it.") Just an idea. But anyways, I would let her take care of it on her own.

[thetygerlily]

This happened frequently at my campus (we had a large conservatory of music with evening rehearsals). Panhellenic was understanding because this was part of the school's culture, and they let those women go to pieces of the parties- so instead of 3 1 hour parties, they went to three parties for 40 minutes each. It wasn't ideal, and especially not for Pref, but it worked for this particular school. It is a possibility she could bring up to her RX- but there are no guarantees that her particular campus, especially if it's very competitive, will allow this. Another option would be to select 2 of the 3 groups she's been invited to, and work with her RX on scheduling. Of course that is assuming that she was invited to 3 groups for Pref... if she hasn't had invites yet, then you may be worried for nothing.

Also, Rho Chis vary greatly by school, so it's unlikely that you'll find someone with appropriate insight without knowing the school very, very well. We can only comment on our own experiences & what we've seen work or not work. Good luck to your daughter!

[ADPiTigergurl]

ok so just my two cents but this actually happened to me during my recruitment as well as a few other girls. I was in band and some other girls were cheerleaders; and we had an away football game on pref night. Therefore I (and about the other 4 girls) had to miss all of pref parties, we go to 2. The five of us all recieved bid on bid day, but of course this all depends on the campus and your daughter. My gamma chi (like a rho chi) had told me I could write letters to the groups I could possibly recieve invites to; so I wrote three letters to the three houses I had visited on skit night, even though only two letters would be needed as I could only get asked back to two houses.I also slipped the suggestion twnkle said in, I'm in band....wont be at pref.... and told the girls that talked to me that third night that I really could see myself here the day before pref (this according to my gamma chi was risky, but she mentioned i could do it but it may back fire). Thankfully all did work out and I am writing this from the sorority house now. Anyway this is just what I did, however it definately depends on the campus, and all you can tell your daughter is to talk to her rho chi...she will most definately have the best advice for her.

[aephi alum]

Originally Posted by Psi U MC Vito

My advice? Your daughter is an adult. She already talked to her RX, so all she can do now is continue. Asking strangers for advice on the internet isn't going to help her any.

/lane swerve

This.

Also, your daughter may not receive three pref invitations. If she only receives one or two invitations, her rho chi can make sure she is not scheduled for a party during the first pref time slot... problem solved.

[Alumiyum]

She might only get one or two invites and in that case something could easily by worked out. It will depend on the campus culture. On my campus it would be unlikely that a desirable PNM would be cut for missing pref for a legitimate reason (and on my campus callbacks would be "legit") but it could effect a PNM who was borderline anyway. She's talked to her Rho Chi and that's about all she could do, unless she feels like covering all bases and talking to the adult Greek Advisor as well. They can tell her how her individual campus will handle the situation better than anyone here can.

[karmelgirl]

Thank you everyone for your positive suggestions.