A unique and kind of sad recruit story

[Stanleypeep]

Okay...so here it comes Day 1:

So we all began to chat as we walked down the hill and heading for a house I hardly knew was there. Nestled in the back of Fraternity Circle. It seemed like a quiet little house.

A Walk to Remember: This is that first house we entered. As we stood in line on the brick walkway suddenly a loud thunder of banging came from inside the house. This struck me as odd and unique and exciting. We went in to the formal room and there were a ton of girls in t-shirts and jeans. The girl I got was wearing pig-tails, but was very laidback and disappointingly quiet. She took me on a tour of the house which seemed to be a little tight quarters, but no less quaint. Then we came into the kitchen where there were vegetables and dip. They put is in the center of the formal room and gathered in a circle and said a prayer and then recited one of their poems. This house didn't really strike me as the place for me as they were a bit too quiet.

Then we continued down the hill to what I would call one of the only 2 "modern" houses in all of frat circle.

Sixteen Candles: The chanting and screaming in this house were WAY more exciting. I remember really loving the foyer of this house. The girl I was paired with was in one of my classes which was a huge lecture hall, but she recognized me!!! I took this as a huge compliment. Then again I tend to stand out, I'm a redhead so I suppose that helps the whole rush process as it is. She was super nice and then handed me off to another girl. I remember all of the girls in this house being really sweet and since I talk a lot I didn't have trouble getting along. They all seemed to love me and I remember one girl cutting off their process to take me over to the President who looked like the most average girl next door, very smart and sweet. I remember this because I don't remember any of the other girls in the group being introduced to the President. After sitting in the Formal room we moved over to the Chapter room, which was by far the most laid back room in the house (and most laid back chapter room of all of the houses for that matter) I felt really comfortable in their, but then I saw a few girls and some of it seemed a little too forced and overly bubbly after a bit. We watched a video and then we left as they chanted a cheer I stll remember some of the words to to this day.

Legally Blonde: I remember entering this house recognizing the only Theatre girl I'd seen in the Greek system. She was GORGEOUS. We'll call her Jackalyn. I didn't really know her very well and frankly she came off very stand-offish and snobby. The same was true of the rest of the girls in the house. They were all the blondest most beautiful girls you ever did see. The first girl who rushed me took me on a house tour. She took one look at me and rolled her eyes. This disapointed me greatly. But I didn't think much of it because hey, not everyone is right for each organization, and besides, who needs people like that? We had a brief very superficial chat and then I met the next girl. The next girl was actually super nice to me, we didn't have much in common, like she began to talk about going running and going to the gym, but we held conversation for good measure. Then they took us downstairs to show us a slide show and a video. They seemed a good fit for each other and the house was BEAUTIFUL, but I knew not only did I have no shot of being invited back, but I don't think I would have preferred to. Their reputation was fab, but I didn't see that it was warranted.

I left day one with still a REALLY great feeling in the pit of my stomach. I knew that I really liked Sixteen Candles, but was worried about their reputation. However, I knew they would still wind up in my top groups. Being a math wiz that I am, I figured top 1 out of every day if there are 9 chapters (oh yeah look at me 3 times 3 is 9 :P)

Day 2 still to come!!!

[thetygerlily]

Originally Posted by Stanleypeep

Okay...so here it comes Day 1:

So we all began to chat as we walked down the hill and heading for a house I hardly knew was there. Nestled in the back of Fraternity Circle. It seemed like a quiet little house.

A Walk to Remember: This is that first house we entered. As we stood in line on the brick walkway suddenly a loud thunder of banging came from inside the house. This struck me as odd and unique and exciting. We went in to the formal room and there were a ton of girls in t-shirts and jeans. The girl I got was wearing pig-tails, but was very laidback and disappointingly quiet. She took me on a tour of the house which seemed to be a little tight quarters, but no less quaint. Then we came into the kitchen where there were vegetables and dip. They put is in the center of the formal room and gathered in a circle and said a prayer and then recited one of their poems. This house didn't really strike me as the place for me as they were a bit too quiet.

Then we continued down the hill to what I would call one of the only 2 "modern" houses in all of frat circle.

Sixteen Candles: The chanting and screaming in this house were WAY more exciting. I remember really loving the foyer of this house. The girl I was paired with was in one of my classes which was a huge lecture hall, but she recognized me!!! I took this as a huge compliment. Then again I tend to stand out, I'm a redhead so I suppose that helps the whole rush process as it is. She was super nice and then handed me off to another girl. I remember all of the girls in this house being really sweet and since I talk a lot I didn't have trouble getting along. They all seemed to love me and I remember one girl cutting off their process to take me over to the President who looked like the most average girl next door, very smart and sweet. I remember this because I don't remember any of the other girls in the group being introduced to the President. After sitting in the Formal room we moved over to the Chapter room, which was by far the most laid back room in the house (and most laid back chapter room of all of the houses for that matter) I felt really comfortable in their, but then I saw a few girls and some of it seemed a little too forced and overly bubbly after a bit. We watched a video and then we left as they chanted a cheer I stll remember some of the words to to this day.

Legally Blonde: I remember entering this house recognizing the only Theatre girl I'd seen in the Greek system. She was GORGEOUS. We'll call her Jackalyn. I didn't really know her very well and frankly she came off very stand-offish and snobby. The same was true of the rest of the girls in the house. They were all the blondest most beautiful girls you ever did see. The first girl who rushed me took me on a house tour. She took one look at me and rolled her eyes. This disapointed me greatly. But I didn't think much of it because hey, not everyone is right for each organization, and besides, who needs people like that? We had a brief very superficial chat and then I met the next girl. The next girl was actually super nice to me, we didn't have much in common, like she began to talk about going running and going to the gym, but we held conversation for good measure. Then they took us downstairs to show us a slide show and a video. They seemed a good fit for each other and the house was BEAUTIFUL, but I knew not only did I have no shot of being invited back, but I don't think I would have preferred to. Their reputation was fab, but I didn't see that it was warranted.

I left day one with still a REALLY great feeling in the pit of my stomach. I knew that I really liked Sixteen Candles, but was worried about their reputation. However, I knew they would still wind up in my top groups. Being a math wiz that I am, I figured top 1 out of every day if there are 9 chapters (oh yeah look at me 3 times 3 is 9 :P)

Day 2 still to come!!!

Only 3 houses per day, stretched over 3 days? That seems to be stretched out an awful lot. Especially since it starts on a Saturday... you'd think they'd fit all nine in two days at the most, if not one action-packed day. Interesting.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by thetygerlily

Only 3 houses per day, stretched over 3 days? That seems to be stretched out an awful lot. Especially since it starts on a Saturday... you'd think they'd fit all nine in two days at the most, if not one action-packed day. Interesting.

Indeed.

[twinkle555]

Originally Posted by Stanleypeep

Okay...so here it comes Day 1:

So we all began to chat as we walked down the hill and heading for a house I hardly knew was there. Nestled in the back of Fraternity Circle. It seemed like a quiet little house.

A Walk to Remember: This is that first house we entered. As we stood in line on the brick walkway suddenly a loud thunder of banging came from inside the house. This struck me as odd and unique and exciting. We went in to the formal room and there were a ton of girls in t-shirts and jeans. The girl I got was wearing pig-tails, but was very laidback and disappointingly quiet. She took me on a tour of the house which seemed to be a little tight quarters, but no less quaint. Then we came into the kitchen where there were vegetables and dip. They put is in the center of the formal room and gathered in a circle and said a prayer and then recited one of their poems. This house didn't really strike me as the place for me as they were a bit too quiet.

What? Really? Is that normal? Even so, rather "formal/Pref-y" for the first day.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by twinkle555

What? Really? Is that normal? Even so, rather "formal/Pref-y" for the first day.

That is rather odd, for Day 1 of recruitment.

[Stanleypeep]

Before I continue I just wanna respond to some of the questions...

What? Really? Is that normal? Even so, rather "formal/Pref-y" for the first day.

To be honest I had the same reaction. I didn't know if this was normal or not. It was kinda cool, but the content of the prayer seemed a bit too religious. For the record that didn't happen in any other house.

* Only 3 of 9 houses on Day 1. For instance, my school (with 12 sororities) does all chapters on Day 1..... While this is not the only way to do it, I've never heard of a school spacing it out this much and am curious to know the reasoning behind it. Especially as this is a Saturday, I would think you'd have time....

I'm not sure why Panhel did it that way. But it was 3 days, 3 houses, then we filled out a pref card 2 days after the last day of round 1...(Wednesday)...I'll get into that later. I'll tell you my school at the end of the story, because I just don't want to give it all away right off the bat.

* Do you rank every day? Or was this just how you were doing it?

That was just me

* Did you really get to go in all the chapter rooms? That (from my experiences, which granted, is a blur from four years ago) seems odd.

I did actually...all the formal rooms and the chapter rooms.

How odd it is that someone who has never met you before recruitment rolls her eyes at you and hates your guts.

I completely agree with this. Yes it did strike me as not only odd, but rude, unprofessional, and downright petty. To me it seems like there are only 2 logical reasons, the first is more likely 1) maybe she was tired or some inside issue was going on or 2) my weight? it could just be me being self-conscious, I tend to think its the former, because I overanalyze things WAY too much. Part of the sad part of this story....you'll understand when i finish it.

I feel that most of the time that "rude" girl (if she exists) isn't actually being rude, the PNM is putting their nervousness or insecurity onto the active's actions and viewing it as rude when it wasn't intended to be.

This is probably true for me. I more willing to admit it because I know myself well enough now, but keep in my this is also a long time ago and these are memories I have.

Dinner time...Day 2 coming TONIGHT!!!

[AOEforme]

Where do/did you go to school? I'm curious....

There are several things your campus does interesting with recruitment such as:

* Only 3 of 9 houses on Day 1. For instance, my school (with 12 sororities) does all chapters on Day 1..... While this is not the only way to do it, I've never heard of a school spacing it out this much and am curious to know the reasoning behind it. Especially as this is a Saturday, I would think you'd have time....

* Do you rank every day? Or was this just how you were doing it?

Originally Posted by Stanleypeep

Being a math wiz that I am, I figured top 1 out of every day if there are 9 chapters (oh yeah look at me 3 times 3 is 9 :P)

* Did you really get to go in all the chapter rooms? That (from my experiences, which granted, is a blur from four years ago) seems odd.

Originally Posted by Stanleypeep

After sitting in the Formal room we moved over to the Chapter room, which was by far the most laid back room in the house (and most laid back chapter room of all of the houses for that matter)!

*The dining at A Walk to Remember also seems odd, but maybe your school doesn't have no frills recruitment...... or maybe they like to stand out?

Finally, I'm perplexed by the odd name to your story and that

Originally Posted by Stanleypeep

To be honest, I'm not sure why I'm sharing this. Perhaps I just feel the need to get it all off my chest. Or perhaps I'm seeking something I'm not sure how to describe or name.