Losing the chapter you joined?

[ree-Xi]

In every group, there are standout members.

If there is any party of you that still feels your fraternity in your heart, I think you owe it to yourself and your fraternity to see what you can accomplish.

It's risky, but try to find out if there are more brothers that feel the way you do. Seek out leadership roles where your ideas can be taken seriously. Taking the "party frat" route is easy; encouraging your brothers to be men of substance (insert ideals here) takes some work. Challenge them to be better versions of themselves.

If, however, you truly feel that there is no way to save a sinking ship, can you "go alum" early? I'm not sure what year you are, but the fraternity is so much more than just chapter. There can be opportunities for your entire lifetime.

If you are an underclassman, then you need to really weigh the pros and cons, and think about how far you want to go to try to change things. Only you can decide what is too much work. I'd hate to suggest that you leave, but there is no reason to be in a situation that makes you that unhappy.

How is your alum network? Do you know or have access to alums? I am thinking that maybe talking this through with someone outside the inner circle of actives can help.

Mind you, this is a woman's opinion, and I know that guys might handle things differently. I wish you luck and hope that you find your peace.