Losing the chapter you joined?

[Gusteau]

I've always believed that the fraternity of "not your typical fraternity guys" never stays that way - whether or not that's I good thing, I don't really know.

A lot of times the party guys in a chapter are the most vocal, but they are rarely the majority. You have to understand that wanting a social outlet and a good reputation on campus are not inherently bad, but they need to be balanced with all of the other aspects of fraternity membership. I'm sure you're not alone in how you feel, but the other members like you aren't speaking out. You need to mobilize your membership and work together to set goals that all the members of your chapter can stand behind.

Alumni are a great resource to demonstrate well rounded fraternity membership - reach out to them and ask them to take an active role in helping the chapter.

Again, its important to have an attitude of wanting to help the chapter and not an attitude of condescension which, quite frankly, probably isn't helping your cause.