Rushing as a sophomore at an SEC school

[catfan]

Bammagirl 339, In keeping with the spirit of sisterhood and Christmas, I do not think you are "damaged goods". It's hard to expect 17-18 year old students away from home to make the best decisions and judgement calls. Sounds like you had a good recruitment experience, but just not the finish you had hoped for, by receiving your #2 choice. The reason you depledged house #2 is yours alone, and maybe it was the right thing to, maybe not. No one here on GC knows. Someone said you thought they weren't good enough for you...well maybe it was a "top tier" and you felt out of place for some reason. Maybe it was a house with many girls who party and you don't. Maybe you just weren't feeling included for whatever reason. We don't know why you left. However, if you still think you would like to be a member of a GLO, go for it.
My now deceased mother in law always told my daughter to hold her head up high, and be proud of who she is regardless of the outcome. I suggest you do the same, enjoy Bama, and have a very Merry Christmas.

PS I pledged almost 30 years ago at an SEC school as a sophomore. I knew several houses would release me early, and some would welcome me, because I already had developed relationships with members. In the end, I ended up where I should be, in a fairly new house on campus, that is now the shining star on sorority row IMO. I'm so proud of the chapter! Good luck to you.

[LXA SE285]

I have heard of women re-rushing successfully at Bama, but you're probably not doing yourself any favors by discussing your situation here.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by catfan

Bammagirl 339, In keeping with the spirit of sisterhood and Christmas, I do not think you are "damaged goods".

I'm sorry, but I refuse to blow sunshine or give unrealistic advice to a PNM because it's "in the Christmas spirit."

[Barbie's_Rush]

Originally Posted by catfan

Bammagirl 339, In keeping with the spirit of sisterhood and Christmas, I do not think you are "damaged goods". It's hard to expect 17-18 year old students away from home to make the best decisions and judgement calls. Sounds like you had a good recruitment experience, but just not the finish you had hoped for, by receiving your #2 choice. The reason you depledged house #2 is yours alone, and maybe it was the right thing to, maybe not. No one here on GC knows. Someone said you thought they weren't good enough for you...well maybe it was a "top tier" and you felt out of place for some reason. Maybe it was a house with many girls who party and you don't. Maybe you just weren't feeling included for whatever reason. We don't know why you left. However, if you still think you would like to be a member of a GLO, go for it.
My now deceased mother in law always told my daughter to hold her head up high, and be proud of who she is regardless of the outcome. I suggest you do the same, enjoy Bama, and have a very Merry Christmas.

PS I pledged almost 30 years ago at an SEC school as a sophomore. I knew several houses would release me early, and some would welcome me, because I already had developed relationships with members. In the end, I ended up where I should be, in a fairly new house on campus, that is now the shining star on sorority row IMO. I'm so proud of the chapter! Good luck to you.

Seriously, you really need to stick to heli-ing your own daughter's upcoming Bama rush. You have no idea how someone in this sorority hopper's position is perceived by members there. I've been around GC long enough to know what the special code "can't stand" means when referring to a Bama sorority, and it definitely doesn't mean any of the things you suppose. I'm sure that it's just that she didn't uh "make a meaningful connection." Jeez, I bet I can tell you with 99.9% certainty which chapter she depledged too. But apparently I'm psychic that way.